Problem drinking.

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I don't know whether I'm looking for advice, support or just to get this off my chest for now. Apologies if this turns into a ramble but I've got so much going through my head just now.

I'm a problem drinker. I don't feel dependent on alcohol (as in having to drink every day) but I have a problem with self-control in terms of the amount I drink when I start and also my behavior when under the influence. As I write I'm sitting alone at home as I have been for the past two days having called in sick to work due to excessive drinking over the weekend (\"sickness & diarrhoea\" being more convincing if it lasts more than one day).

I'm worried that if I don't do something to control my drinking I'm going to end up in real trouble. In recent months I've been in hospital twice for alcohol related injuries (once having completely lost control when another seemingly problem drinker started a fight with me in the street, the other after falling and smashing my face on concrete paving), I've missed days at work, engaged in casual sex with people I would never consider to be appropriate partners otherwise and just generally seem to be demonstrating in increasing lack of self control.

I'd love to be able to drink socially to a moderate level but more and more it seems like I'm incapable of this. The sensible thing would seem to be to stop completely but I don't know if I'm capable. Most of my friends are regular drinkers especially my best friend of over 15 years who, truth be told, drinks way more than me but doesn't seem to have a problem with it. I can avoid situations where alcohol is likely to be a factor when I'm feeling like this but it doesn't take long for the physical/mental effects of the last binge to subside and boredom to set in. I'm single and live alone so all I really have are my friends and if they're socialising in an environment where alcohol is present then that's where I'll be. I've tried going out and drinking soft drinks/water only but I've only ever lasted a week or two at most before going back on the sauce. This usually starts off with a beer or two but within a couple of weeks the chances are I'll have had another binge, done something I regret, and be right back where I am now.

I really don't know what I'm trying to say/ask here but I think one of the most significant parts of my problem is being alone and not having anyone to talk to about things. Getting this off my chest may help.

Thanks for listening,


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    I've just posted on there, it sounds like your issue is my issue - but I think I need to stop drinking or it'll just happen again at some point - I'm going to get round my friends and tell them why and pray they'll understand. I'm 36 and feel confident in myself now (with either sex) to hold my own in conversation, I used to drink cos I was shy and didn't want to talk much in crowds but I'm different now I guess. In a weird way I'm looking forward to it!!!!

    Good luck!

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    :shock: Hmmmmmmmm, I have a problem with alcohol also. I am 31, and I have probably drank my way out of every little or (BIG) thing, that I just cant handle.. :cry: :cry: :cry:
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    I've literally just watched a programme about women and drink - even a couple of glasses of wine a night is frowned on!! We are made to feel guilty about almost everything we eat or drink these days - talk about a nanny state! I am sure this government are just trying to detract us from other issues that they are making such a godawful mess of. I know some folk have genuine problems with alcohol - but please leave us middle-class women drinkers alone. Hic!
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    :shock: katie K, (You have a cool name by the way :lol: :lol: ). yes....bloody..Nanny state...fffffff, thank god , you think on my lines....the police, the education system,,even the NHS is failing people like us.. ThereMUST be something wrong with society to make us all feel so god awful!!! Would you agree?
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    Hi Tiny Tearssmile smile

    Thanks for your reply! I wrote it after a couple of glasses of wine, and then thought perhaps I shouldn't have!!:oops:

    Yea, I have to say that I think modern day life is pants!! There are sooooo many pressures on us all today - and this country is just falling down the pan. Is it surprising that many of us find things one continual struggle and need some sort of crutch - be it alcohol or pills (or both!)

    Take care

    Katie xx smileThanks for saying my name is cool - I always thought it was quite boring!!

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    :oops: Hi katie K, (No, I am called Katy).....oh well, maybe it is a bit plain, but its better than sky, moon, cloud or something.

    Yeah, this world is potty!!!!! It is complete pants, why ??? Well , look at us all, if we dont have our vices, we are miserable, grumpy upset moody sods. (huh, I dont know maybe I was just spoilt as a child!). There MUST be something wrong.....I mean people are jumping in front of trains, off buildings and hanging themselves, if not topping themselves!! if your not doing any of that then you are blessed, then again, or is it?/

    Ive not used that word...:pants, to describe something in a long while.[b:a90b45afef] ITS PANTS!!!!!![/b:a90b45afef]

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