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Problem or no problem with alcohol

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nicole1313
nicole1313

I am having a lot of mixed emotion about the consumption of alcohol. I am 42 years old. About a year ago I went through a very painful divorce and submerged myself into alcohol. I come from a family that alcohol is the center of everything, gatherings, parties, visiting, etc. Any reason is a good reason. My parent and sister came to me and said I needed help- long story short said if I didn;t go into rehab I would not have a family. For myself I did it...knowing I could and two I did it to prove a point that I could. I came home and for 6-7 months I did not have anything. One night I wanted to see if I could get a bottle of wine and just have 2 glasses and that's it. I could. A few weekes went by and tried again, I was always in control. My family has recently found out I started "drinking". - not crazy drinking, but like I said a few glasses every once in awhile. I feel attacked again by them that they keep putting a label on me and I do not feel as if I am an alcoholic. It makes me angry if nothing else, especially when I have a sister who drinks like a fish. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. TY

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  • joshua99
    joshua99 nicole1313

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    Nicole your family still see you as a drunk yet they drink,the stigma is still there.Your family are not very supportive,you have been through a lot and are now in control that should be aplauded not derided.

    I admire your strenth to quit and then control the Booze and they should,do your family have duel standerds ?

    Good luck for the future your doing great Mike ---Doncaster.

  • joymiracle
    joymiracle nicole1313

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    Dear Nicole, I know how you feel about divorce. I got divorce too. But, it's not the reason for you to take alcohol for your solution. Even you can control the amount of alcohol you take in, actually you are an addict now. why? Because you still need to look for alcohol when you get depressed. You have a great family who keep overseeing you and taking care about you. You are loved. I think you should meet a professional therapist to help you get free from alcohol. You can do it. You can free. And you also can be happy in your single life. 

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  • PaulJTurner1964
    PaulJTurner1964 nicole1313

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    Hello Nicole. Unfortunately, it appears that your family became worried at your consumption before and are concerned that you are heading for trouble again. Only YOU know how much you are drinking and whether or not that is a problem. I have worked with people with alcohol problems for years and I hate the term 'alcoholic.' It is an unhelpful label which either gives some people the excuse to keep drinking ('I am an alcoholic, I can't help it, it's who I am') or gives others the idea that you are somehow less valued than they are.

    The term 'alcoholic' is used to describe a person who is (or in some cases has been, in the past) physically dependent on alcohol. A person who has physical withdrawal symptoms when they don't have alcohol in their body. That is by no means the only type of alcohol problem but it is the most severe and the most difficult to overcome.

    I wonder, if you are only having a few glasses of wine every now and then, how your family know about that. You didn't mention if that drinking is happening while you are with them.

    I would suggest that you should consider why you have those few glasses every once in a while. If you simply enjoy wine and do it socially, with other people, it is probably no issue. If you are doing it at times when you are stressed and feel that you NEED the wine to unwind, then I think you could be at risk of letting it get out of control.

    The most important thing is that you are honest with yourself. It isn't clear from your message if you want people here to tell you that you are right and your family is being unfair or if you want to be reassured that a few glasses of wine occasionally is ok smile At the end of the day, it is you that has to decide if what you are doing is likely to be a problem. Your family will remain concerned and it might get on your nerves, but better that they bother to tell you their worries than not care at all eh? smile

    Feel free to send me a private message if you want a chat.

     

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