Hi I am Autistic with Asperger's Syndrome, currently just under 8 months pregnant with my first child and I would like to know if it is normal to not want anyone but my partner and health professionals to touch my bump? As it is I generally like to have my own personal space, but because of this I am getting told I'm being told im being to over protective can this happen. Also my partner and I are getting a lot of help from our main families, and a friend of his, his partner is pushing a lot of questions in my direction and also having a go at me behind my back because of decisions I've made its making the pregnancy a lot harder, I have explained my reasons for things but it seems they just think its excuses and I feel very upset and hurt because of it. I will admit I have trust issues because of how I have been treated in the past but now I feel they are pushing me to do things I'm not at all happy with. So if I could get some advice on this I would be truly grateful.
It’s interesting that women who are not pregnant do not expect people to touch their stomach. This should not change in being pregnant it is your personal preference.
Your partners friends partner should not be causing you any anything but positiveness. It’s not clear what they are suggesting and whether these are bog sttandard or not. Ask them to respect your decisions and if they don’t respect then maybe it’s time to spend more time with people that make you feel comfortable. Have a word with your partner he should be sorting this for you.
However inwoukd be running these suggestions past someone you trust to get a second opinion.
P.S. I would go ballistic if anyone touched my stomach. Nobody has a right to touch your body unless you want them to.
Who is it that wants to touch your bump? it is your body and you have the right to say who you want to touch you. If the only people that you want to touch you are your partner and the people helping with your pregnancy then that is your right to do so.
I think maybe you should sit your partner down and explain to him how you feel about people talking about you behind your back and ask for his support and help with this.