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Psychological effects of Lichen Schlerosus

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Kmklc
Kmklc

Hi all

I have had LS for 5 years, am now 56. My sex life has suffered dramatically because of pain during intercourse, but I am managing physical symptoms at the moment. I recently discovered my husband has been watching porn which has made me feel devastated, upset, hurt, angry and a failure sexually. He is fairly understanding of my condition but has no real concept of the daily struggle. Has anyone else experienced this? It has really affected me mentally and I do not feel close to him at the moment. Maybe I am over reacting? Please help 😥

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  • jules36856
    jules36856 Kmklc

    Posted

    Yea ive suffered it, im 18 year old male and have been diagnosed with LS for 2 years now. I can rarely have sex without pain since i have to heal from open wounds every couple weeks or so. You just have to know how long you take to heal and then manage when you can have sex.
    • Kmklc
      Kmklc jules36856

      Posted

      So sorry to hear this you are so young to have this devastating condition. You are right management is the key. Feel a lot of anger and resentment which maybe I am directing at my partner.
    • devin41836
      devin41836 jules36856

      Posted

      Hey Jules when this started for you what was your first symptoms that you noticed?
  • donna60875
    donna60875 Kmklc

    Posted

    Hun ! don’t distance your self or be mad at him for watching porn , most men watch it anyway with a full sex life , you rather that ,, then him cheat on you , 

    My worry ! is more that my husband 10 years younger  will have a affair ,

    he’s very sexually active , and I can’t do it as much as I could ! he’s very understanding , but!!  still,  it worry’s me more,,  

    than if he watched porn,  im happy for him to do that ! It’s very stressful for us both ! you , and him ,,

    as he loves you fancy’s you but can’t get close to you , so please don’t push him away for the porn x 

    • Kmklc
      Kmklc donna60875

      Posted

      Thanks for the reassurance feeling better already x
  • Jac89
    Jac89 Kmklc

    Posted

    Have you thought about seeing a counsellor? It helped me hugely seeing a a sex therapist with my partner. It wasn’t about how to have sex again but how to approach your relationship with LS and how it affects you and your partner. The physchological healing is just as important as the physical

    • Kmklc
      Kmklc Jac89

      Posted

      Haven't considered this but may give it a try. Thank you

  • Nancy_K_B
    Nancy_K_B Kmklc

    Posted

    oh KM - what an opportunity you have... smiles for both of you to reignite each other in a different way. Have you ever heard of TANTRA? Tantric Sex? I've been meaning to suggest this for those of you who have partners.  IT's an amazingly beautiful, spiritual renewing thing to learn and practice. To learn that humans can bring themselves as a couple to orgasm without penetrative sex.  I just checked and  see that even there are youtubes for beginners etc. Get that wonderful hubby of yours interested in learning something new. you can do it together - grin -  like deciding as a couple to go learn skiing or some other sport - tantra as a spiritual "sport" instead, if you will, and can immensely increase your love relationship. Blessings

  • Guppy007
    Guppy007 Kmklc

    Posted

    Hi, I agree with the other poster, dont beat him up about the porn, it could be worse.

    What you need to do is sit down and talk with him, even watch some porn together, and then try different stuff, but dont make him feel like crap for doing what many men do anyway...so yeah, I think you have probably overreacted a little bit.cheesygrin

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