Public Speaking

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So I'm a fairly outgoing confident guy and I don't tend to suffer from a lot of social anxiety. In fact I'd say I'm fairly comfortable holding conversations with peers and strangers. I used to be very shy but growing up and particularly between the ages of 15-19 I grew confidence and came out of my shell.

I do, however experience mild anxiety on a daily basis, I'm assuming an average amount or just over average perhaps. This doesn't tend to overwhelm me though.

But what I really want to address is something which is concerning me and I feel need sorting. For the past few years, and coincidentally ever since my first year of university, when I went through a bad breakup with an ex-girlfriend, I've experienced social anxiety and had symptoms of panic attacks during situations when I've had to speak publicly. I don't mean in social groups, but during class at university is one instance. When having to talk in that kind of environment to my group (most of the people of which I get along well with) I've had panic attacks and recently I've noticed this same type of anxiety has crept into a few other social situations.

I could really do with some advice or support on this. It would be much appreciated. I just don't want this to worsen.

Regards,

Chris

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  • Posted

    Well one thought is maybe you are subconsciously super worried about rejection...because of being rejected by your old girlfriend. One way I deal with things that have not gone. the way I wanted them to go..is that I say to myself ...well wasn't that lucky...I just saved myself from____________ (you fill in the blank) this works really well for me and allows me to carry on normally without feeling like things are going against me....you see...it's all a  mater of perception. So I end up thinking of my self as lucky, rather than unlucky....Try it, and hopefully it will work as well for you as it does for me. 
    • Posted

      Thanks for replying smile

      I'm good at getting over things which don't work out, and I don't tend to live my life with regrets really. Like you say it's a matter of perception smile I just get anxious when it comes to public speaking, maybe rejection is what I fear subconsciously in that type of situation but I don't know.

      Regards,

      Chris

  • Posted

    It sounds like your break up has knocked your confidence and you find what used to be easy more difficult.  The best thing is to try and tackle the anxiety by talking about things to remove your blocks over your confidence. 

    Try talking to someone experienced in relationship issues and see if that helps.

    Richard

  • Posted

    Hello CJ

    Feeling nervous of speaking in public or even voicing your opinion amongst friends is a very common form of anxiety.  I am an older lady, and write posts here occasionally in the hope of helping others through my experience of anxiety. For example I write poetry and short stories for local events, but I can never read them out personally.  I always get someone else to do it!  Also, if I have to speak about anything I get hot and bothered, and although well-educated, I lose all confidence.  You may find there is a group in your area which helps people to overcome their nerves.  You are not the only one to suffer, believe me.  There is help out there.  Good Luck!

    • Posted

      Thanks for the response CruiseLady.

      Yeah it can be frustrating like, I'm going to try find help locally. Thanks smile

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