Recently diagnosed with HSV

Thank you, I actually just told him and he believes I cheated on him which I didn't. I love him so much and would never cheat on him. When I told him I knew he would be upset but didn't expect for him to be insensitive. I'm at a really emotional state right now and I don't know what to think. Will my kids be ok? I just have so many questions. I don't understand any of this. My doctor said its more common than a lot of people think which I knew. I just never expected it to happen to me. I fee so lost and I really appreciate the advice. I've been extremely stressed about school and finances and my doctor told me that it could've been what triggered it. I fee sick to the stomach. I can't eat, I can't think. I just want to curl up in a ball but I have kids and responsibilities.

Hey there, I'm sorry you are experiencing this. Nobody deserves it or asks for it and it isn't your fault. Majority of those positive do not know and that's one reason why it spreads so fast. Another reason is because it doesn't necessarily require sex, just skin to skin contact. I'll give you another...the stigma, nobody talks about it so many positive individuals spread the virus simply because they fear how people will look at them or judge them with the virus....I believe your husband will calm down and you can help by giving him a little time and arm yourself with knowledge about the virus, the statistics and the transmission because the talk will come. People respond very harshly especially when they only know what they hear in jokes, social media and amongst people that have not taken the time to learn about it. The more you learn about it the more you will understand and have less stress which is known to bring about outbreaks. You will still have a healthy life with your children as well, many people do...I do 😊.

Yes your kids will. E fine. Just make sure you of course use different towels and stay very clean and careful during. An outbreak if you have an outbreak and when you have any signs or symptoms on your face or mouth I would stay clear of kissing them just to be super safe. Feel free to ask and seriously Google will answer the majority of your questions😊😊😊

I actually told my husband a couple of hours ago. He's acting completely opposite of what I thought. He isn't being a good support system and is only concerned about where it came from. Truth is Idk how long I've even had it. It just sucks because I expected so much more from him. I at least thought I would get a shoulder to cry on but instead I got side looks and asked a million questions about where it came from. It sucks. I wish I could take it back. I wish it was all a dream. I'm sorry for my rant but this is the last thing I needed on my plate. I know with time it will get better and I plan on taking it one day at a time. Maybe you should just tell him and get it out of the way. I told my husband what the doctor said and I also showed him the information pamphlets she gave me. I'm happy I was able to go through with tell him but didn't expect things to go the way they did. I hope your situation is better.

To be honest I feel like that's how my husband will act as well. That's why I don't want to tell him anything. But I see him scratching that I think it's wierd that he's not consern why he was so much itch

My husband hasn't had any symptoms at all but that doesn't mean anything because neither have I up until recently. I've read stories where people were together for years. One had it and the other one never got it. I just hope that's what the case is with me and my husband. When you feel comfortable just tell him so he can get trusted.

How are you and your husband right now? Is he talking to you

Not really. I've been crying off and on and he doesn't seem to care. All he wants to know is where it came from. He doesn't want to get tested. He doesn't think he has it because he doesn't have any symptoms.

Does he get cold sores?

None at all but neither did I. I didn't have any sysmptoms until recently. I've never cheated and I know he hasn't cheated either. I feel nasty and disgusted in myself. I keep taking baths and waiting for the sore to be gone. Then maybe I'll feel better about it. It really is a life changer and I thought when I told him he would be a great support system but he isn't.

Well my husband gets cold sores so I know he knows about herpes. & yes herpes is a life changer. Iam only 22 and I feel like life just hit me bad. But I am still here for my kids cause I know they need me. Where do you live if you don't mind me asking ?

I'm only 23, I'll be 24 next month. I've been so stressed out with school lately and Christmas and I think that could've triggered the outbreak. I knew something was up when I kept getting bad nerve pain in my legs. After that the sore appeared but it appeared as an itchy bump and not a sore but herpes was definitely the last thing to cross my mind. My doctor said my blood work came back positive for both hsv 1 & 2. I don't understand how. But I live in Missouri. Where do you live?

I was diagnosed in June 12 of this month and I haven't told my husband yet. He still doesn't have symptoms. But I got a sore and I didn't think it would be herpes either. I was positive for both too. I live in Arizona.

When do you plan on telling him? When I told my husband I was shaking, my voice was trembling and my heart was racing. I simply told him that Inwent to the doctor and got some unfortunate results then handed him the paperwork.

Idk when I would tell him. Iam very scared I think that iam going to cry. Well I kinda did tell him but I told him I had only hsv1 and he laughed and said everyone has hsv1 specially him that he gets very bad cold sores. What did he say when you have the paper work

When I gave him the paperwork and read everything and then asked if it was curable. He was fine up until I told him thag there is no cure but there are ways of treating it. Since I told him we have barely even talked. When he left for work this morning he barely said anything to me. Nobody else knows so I'm finding a lot of comfort in this discussion forum.

Do you still feel sad ?

Yes, very sad.

Hey how are you

I'm really taking everything one day at a time. It still hasn't processed that this something I'm going to be stuck with for the rest of my life. My husband has been acting way better towards me and he's been very comforting since early yesterday which I really needed. He's going to get tested even though he doesn't want to. I'm going to feel bad if his come back positive. At the same time neither of us know where it came from or how long we've had it. I've actually thought about maybe seeing a counselor because of the thoughts and feelings I've been having since finding out. Did you ever tell your husband?

Your brave. And no iam very scared to tell him. And I understand how you feel you need to see someone to help you with this cause I even thought about suicide. But everything will be better

I understand you're scared. How long have yoh guys been married?

We have been - couple for 9 years and lived together for 3 so it's going to be very hard to open up to him