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Rectocele

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bridget99388
bridget99388

Hello lady's I'm suffering from rectocele I'm wondering if any of you have become loose from this prolapse ? I'm waiting to see a gp. I don't even think I could have sex because it's too big sad

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  • tilley49386
    tilley49386 bridget99388

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    Hi Bridget, Just how old are you? Too young for menopause. If not then have you considered that it may not be related to your prolapse I was very loose down there when I discovered my prolapse and no spec ever connected the two. I think it had more to do with menopause and my vagina walls and kegal muscles failing than the prolapse. I found that as I waited for my op the prolapse was hanging out through my perineum area into part of my vagina and that made the perineum stretch like an elastic band, it became very tight, thin and painful. But I bought some of the cream you rub on before tattoo etcon my doctors advice and with an understanding partner and a dark room LOL we did manage intimate not too painful sex but was in no way wonderful for me.But men had needs and I knew I was about to have surgery and that it would be many weeks till we were able to have sex after the op so I made the effort and he was very happy, didn't even notice the size or if he did he didn't say anything. So if you can manage it just go for it I say. If your prolapse isn't serious enough for surgery . Oestrogen cream for the vagina can help with the elasticity and keagl exercises through a physio or using a machine cant name it as it quarantines this reply can help with looseness. Have you seen anyone for it?
    • bridget99388
      bridget99388 tilley49386

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      I'm only 20 that's why I'm so emotional, no kids just suffered from bad constipation for years which I'm guessing has caused it. The lump only appears outside when I strain, I know the boy wouldn't feel a lump but I can't even grip 2 fingers and I don't want to go to have sex then he can't feel anything would be so horrible! It's knocked my confidence so much. I have recently moved area so waiting for a appointment. I saw a gyno in my last area and he was going to refer me to physio but I want a operation x
    • tilley49386
      tilley49386 bridget99388

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      OMGosh Bridget .. only 20.. I can't believe you have severe prolpase at your age. Not syaing you don't just hard to believe you have and no child birth either . No wonder your confidence is shot. Are you more concerned about yuour loose vagina or the prolapse. If the prolapse going back then I understand it could be the loose vaginal walls muscles that are not doing there job. This is just my opinion but i was cut diwn there after child birth and stitched up and I can tell you me and my partner have had to endure many years of uncomfortable and often painful sex as the scar that you end up with is often hard and sensitive, I had another surgery to repair my scar and things were never the same again. I know how demoralising and degrading having something so personal and such a great area of enjoyment usually suddenly look and feel like it does. But my partner always reassured it that it was beautiful and didn't look bad, a lot of women are looise down there naturally we are all different. - did ask him how he knew that?! Apparently so many UK girls for going for surgery to make their vagina tighter they made a programme about it and one guy got women to have casts of down there made and displayed them so everyone could see how vastly different we are. If I find it I will send you a link by PM. Know you think it is huge down there and might be but we often cant get a true perspective of how big the issue is or isn't without a full examine from a specialist and if you believe it is prolapse you need to see a Urogyno, not just a gyno. So I urge you to go and see the specialist but in the mean time I would truly try to kegal exercises under supervision to help tighter your muscles. I believe there is even an electric stimulating they can apply toi see if your mucles will respond or if surgeery is the only cure you have nothing to loose but not having surgery and I know you think it is the answer but the recovery and time till you can have and more importantly enjoy sex again will be many months or weeks or possibly never again without discomfort. Surgery should be a last resort. Hope this hasn't made you even more emotional just wanted to point out surgery isn't always as easy a fix as it sems . just ask any of the ladies on this forum. I will be having the electric stimulation tests myself in about 6 weeks time when my scar heals enough that I can take being examined down there and will let you know how it works. But please remember we are all here for you and I know you don't feel so good about your body and yourself at the moment. But you owe it to yourself to go and get this sorted. Get more than one spec opinion if you are not happy with the options the first gives you. One last thing either way is no quick fix, I found when I did my kegal exercise under supervsion even without the electric stimlution help , I could contract them around my hubby private part and he loved that so they do work for some people and that is why it is important to go get referred to right specilaist and physios. Sorry for long reply .. keep smiling and remember although men would not agree there is more to life than sex LOL. 
    • bridget99388
      bridget99388 tilley49386

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      Thankyou so much ,if I knew this could happen I would never have strained. It's all very depressing and I have anxiety constantly thinking it will get worse. I know surgery doesn't always work but surely I have a good chance being young I'll heal quick ?? I don't smoke and I'm a healthy weight. Wish I had money because nhs takes sooo long. I also suffer from sever bloating where my belly is rock solid (guessing that's due to organs being out of place) I do do my kegels but they don't seem to do anything. I'll keep you updated hopefully I get to see a doctor soon x
    • tilley49386
      tilley49386 bridget99388

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      Hi Bridget great to hear from you, I did wonder if I had upset you? I reread my post and thought I sounded a bit overbearing and pushy. Not what I intended so sorry if it came across as a lecture. Sorry from what I have read there is no such thing as a quick heal no matter what your age. View the video to see what they do to us and you will agree if you can stomach it all it is major surgery. But you could be right about your recovery being quicker as you are younng and fit. Here the national health system won't even put you on the waiting list until your prolapse is stage 3 or 4, so think it's great you are on list at all- just thinking you may not be on the list yet if you have not seen a spec yet? My neighbour had offer surgery done here on the NHS system and was on the waiting list but she let her doctor know that she could go straight away with a days or even a few hours notice if there was a last minute cancellation. This happened and she got in quicker. Not sure how your UK system works but wouldn't hurt to ask if you could manage this. Was thinking of you when I watch Joanne Lumley on her program about the nile. Would copy link but know it will block this post so just search Joanna Lumley on the Sudanese Dukahn! I could get into to see any doctor here today if I wanted, my doctor definately within a week she is popular and I got my specialist appointment just a week after seeing my doctor but I did travel to it. How long does it take to get to se the doc in UK? Keep smiling and posting we are all here for you. But do hope you manage to avoid surgery. 
  • jennie43338
    jennie43338 bridget99388

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    Hi Bridget, I have a rectocele which is just protruding from my vagina. As my Consultant pointed out when Ilie down it goes back and my husband does not know it is there when we have intercourse. Do you think yours might do the same? When you say loose, do you mean your vagina feels looseor your stolls are loose? I am waiting for an op to repair the rectocele & they are going to mend the muscles so that the vagina is tighter. If you do mean your stools are loose theConsuktant says a rectocele should not cause that. Hope this helps, Polly. xx
    • bridget99388
      bridget99388 jennie43338

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      Hello I mean my vagina is loose. Very upsetting at this age and gets me really down as relationship wise my life is on hold until I can somehow get it sorted, how old are you may I ask? I really want a op but so scarred of risks , but if I get offered the chance I would 100 percent take it as can't keep living being constantly thinking and worrying about all this! I do kegels but feel they don't help and I have to splint 90% of the time when I go the toilet. How long do you have to wait for your op?x
    • jennie43338
      jennie43338 bridget99388

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      Hello Bridget, I am 59 years old and have suffered with an overactive bladder & stress incontinence for years, I have only had the prolapsed rectum for about 2 years which was caused by me doing some heavy lifting. Tilley's advice is very good. You need to be referred as soon as possible, the gyno physio I saw worked wonders for me as she showed me how to do the correct exercises. I have been told the waiting list time is 18 weeks which will be about July but it could be sooner, that is the NHS target. Keep posting on here, everyone is so supportive. Take care. x
  • roxigrl
    roxigrl bridget99388

    Posted

    Im older than you but did become loose (if you mean in the viginal area) from Prolapse. I was already kinda loose. Ive been Kegal & Pelvic Floor Excercising now for 4 weeks consistently and it is helping a lot! I wish I knew when I was young what I know now. I only took this Pelvic Floor excercise thing seriously after there was SERIOUS bulging in the Vagina area & I had to put my feet on a stool to go to the loo otherwise my insides were kind of falling out. I had to kinda assist sometimes. When I was younger, I did a lot physical activiies including dance so I think that helped my situation. But I NEVER even considered Pelvic floor excercises. I think some ladies are just genetically prone to looser pelvic floor issues. So we need to be MUCH more proactive.

    I now excercise those muscles 2x a day & now that Im stronger down there I excercise while Im sitting and sometimes now when Im standing. You have build slowly and its frustrating at times but worth it. You can follow me on my Posts. 

    (Dont know if its going to eventually keep me out of the Operating room in the long run but it sure is helping.)

    As far as constipation:

    *MANGOS - wow do they clean you out and get things going. Were lucky to have awesome sweet & juicy Florida Mangos in the summer. But I think you can buy frozen but their consistency is not real good. But better than suffering......

    * DO NOT eat Banannas! Very binding! I was having very bad constipation from eating Banannas which was back sliding my attempts to correct my Prolapse.

    *Also keep Chocolate intake down. ( cant stop that one lol)

    *Eat a high fiber (check the box labels) Cereal every morning with some high fiber fruit.  

    *No white breads! Only whole wheat & keep to a minumum. Whole wheat everything - cookies, cakes, subs, pancakes, etc.

    *Eat lots of Salad & Vegis. 

    *Ive found Corn can do a great job of cleaning me out. But you have to eat a lot for a good plumbing job. lol

    * For some strange reason * Cheerios cereal 2X a day helps me a lot sometimes when I need it too. 

    For excercises make sure your doing them right. Cant stress that enough. Get to a specialized physiotherapist. I hope this helps you as you are so young.

    Blessings to you and to all on this particular Forum. 

     

    • bridget99388
      bridget99388 roxigrl

      Posted

      Thankyou for all you kind advise. The doctor has gave me powder to put in water to drink to help constipation called movicol. It does help a abit but even when my stools are soft they still get trapped and I have to help them along. I constantly feel pressure if I stand up for too long and it's very uncomfortable. I'm just very down as boyfriend wise my life is on hold and the process of getting this sorted seems so long I just really hope I can get reffered to a surgeon but I bet I'll still have to wait months for that and I do want children in the future. I do kegels but I don't think they work for me x
    • tilley49386
      tilley49386 bridget99388

      Posted

      Just saw your reply Bridget , that why you need to go se phsyio who can test your muscles to see if they can work or not

       

    • roxigrl
      roxigrl bridget99388

      Posted

      Tilley is right. Cant stress it enough!! Get to a certified Physio who can give you electronic feedback concerning your doing the kegal & pelvic floor excercises properly. Worth it instead of a lifetime of suffering. I went and was skeptical as I am athletic and a dancer. I was doing them wrong!! I thought I had my body parts under control. NO I didnt. Not sure if its a cure (yet - not been at it long enough) but it shurely helps with the possible future hubby. hint hint. Sorry Im Old Fashioned.
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