Reducing my sex drive

What is meeting in the middle for yiu? Howany times a week do you have sex now?

I don't believe in that too busy and stressful. It is a choice. There arw many times I wasn't in the mood or was in pain... There are other ways to relieve your partner, that's not going to be taxing on her.

Male chastity could work

I'd personally like to get intimate on the few occasions a week I see her.

Theres many reasons and to be honest I really don't want to delve into any psychological stuff.

I just know that after lots of thought this is the way i want to go.

Please don't even think about taking a drug to reduce your sex drive.  Anti-depressant drugs do that but...you become dependent on them and can't mentally function without them if you start taking them, not to mention other side effects.  It turns many folks into legal drug addicts.  You don't want to have to take a pill every four or six or eight hours just to keep from going off the deep end. You will probably find as you age that your sex drive will naturally decline.  In the meantime, masturbation is a great sport.  Your lady may find your approaches a bit more interesting if you help out with the household chores and other worries that preoccupy her since she needs to feel comfortable to get in the mood.  Dark chocolate has a wonderful effect on many ladies especially during that time of the month.  Also check to see if there is anything like an infection bothering her as vaginal health can be an issue.  Many women end up with recurring uterine, yeast and bacterial infections in part due to an imbalance of vaginal flora.  Docs often prescribe antibiotics for vaginal infections, which wipe out the good flora as well resulting in more infections.  She may need to take a probiotic to restore good flora.  She may be a bit embarrassed to mention these issues. You might help her keep her vaginal ph in balance by using condoms. Also, take the time to get her interested... foreplay is essential to women, so check out different things to see what she likes. She has erogenous zones all over the body. See what a kiss on the back of the neck does. Women climax much later then men so gently coax her into it, she doesn't need the pain of sudden entry...

I really appreciate your thoughts and suggestions. But there's no issue with stuff like chores, or knowing how to get her going on the occasions she wants to.

I really don't want to put any more pressure on her by suggesting a trip to the doctors.

I'd rather it be me who got it sorted than her.

 John, get real. It's straightforward. You two are not compatible.You are clearly not on the same wavelength. It seems to be a one-sided relationship. Does your partner love you, is she in love with you? As for taking drugs to suppress your sex drive, you are being ridiculous. You'll need your testes removing to achieve that. Your partner also has a responsibility to you and your relationship. Does she really want intimacy. How do you know she's not faking it. How do know she is not using you? Think what it would be like in ten years time if this situation isn't resolved. You'll never get those years back. It's your choice. Tackle this problem now and stop procrastinating. I wish you luck because you'll need it. I can't see how this can work out without fundamental change.

Masturbate when you feel the need.  It's perfectly normal even within relationships