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Refuse to have sex with boyfriend because of fear of getting pregnant

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jj123467
jj123467

hello everyone! so me and my boyfriend have been almost dating for 9 months and i love and trust him very much. BUT there is one problem. we have done everything else besides sex and obviously the topic is brought up often because since we have been dating for quite some time that we should have sex. everytime he brings this up I try to AVOID as much as possible because of the horrible fear of becoming pregnant. i am not on birth control and am afraid to just use a condom because i wont feel safe enough. i know i am being kinda irrational considering many people use a condom and dont get pregnant and i want to have sex with him but i mentally cant get myself to do this. (I AM 17 YEARS OLD BTW.)

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  • ShayRose
    ShayRose jj123467

    Posted

    i know its your personal matter but i dont like sex before marriage cause if a person really loves someone first he should give her his name and honour made her his wife and then do whatever he wants to do like making love im a south asian boy i fell in love with an Scottish women sometimes when we get close lyk when i feel than something is about to happen i said to her darling first we will get marry and then i will kiss and make love with u cause the real relationship is marriage and this is the only long term relationship thats all

  • lindathepinda
    lindathepinda jj123467

    Posted

    There is never a time "that we should have sex". The only reason to have sex is because you feel like it, not because of social norms or expectations of the other person. You clearly are not ready for it, the reason doesn't matter.

    Wait until you are on birth control and feel like it.

    • ShayRose
      ShayRose lindathepinda

      Posted

      its ok but how can people say these things so easily may b im from different culture but i was at the bus and there was an horrible add about sex on the radio i cant even sees in my girl friend's eyes and she was keep looking at me but i love her so much i will do everything once we get married idw to purpose her in front of our kids that will you marry me shes my honour my love my everything i will give her my name first and then we do it sorry about asking its something wrong like i can do that before marriage or jus im right cause idw anyone to say bad things about our relationship jus asking plz dont mind

    • lindathepinda
      lindathepinda ShayRose

      Posted

      In my (Western) culture it is normal for two adults to have sex when they are both ready for it, it is something which has to be decided by those two people. Unless you both are in a very traditional environment, nobody will judge you for having sex before marriage. If it makes you feel bad to have sex before marriage you shouldn't do it, though it might cause discussions with your girlfriend if she doesn't understand and accept the reason of you backing off. Open and honest communication is key, like with every issue in a relationship. Talk a lot with eachother and try to understand her point of view and explain yours. She might accept your feelings and on the other hand you might change your view on things. Just see what comes out of it.

    • ShayRose
      ShayRose lindathepinda

      Posted

      no she says thats what i like aboutyou love my soul and now shes fallen completely she didnt even leave me for a second even though im not in Scotland right now but we were always stick together she says she wants to marry me and i want to marry her too i love her

    • ShayRose
      ShayRose

      Posted

      shes coming to pakistan to marry me and then we move to glasgow cause i live there too its kind of jack dawson n Rose's love story from titanic i saved her when she was commiting a sucide cause her bf were unfaithful to her

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