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Regrets ? Does this cross anyone's mind ???

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hazel14263
hazel14263

Is it NORMAL to think three weeks in .. What the hell have I done ? I mean I don't regret it really but at this stage the benefits so do not outweigh a former state . I know it sounds churlish and impatient ... Just wondered if this is a normal phase .? I mean I was in pain before but this pain outweighs it by a ton .. Really wish I could bend and pick something up properly I am a useless patient and feel so frustrated ... Anyone relate to this ? Not really feeling sorry for myself more missing a state where I could walk and bend and was in pain sometimes ...hey ho !!!

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  • madla39168
    madla39168 hazel14263

    Posted

    Dear Hazel, im same. I thi k have i dont ok or no. Should I way? I mis my walk, my beter sleep. Itt 4 o clock Ausie rime and i still not sleeping. So fare i have a more pain , my leg is longer and some night i have a crumps. Ufotunately i cant take back even i can wish some time. I just hope it will be better one day. Madla
  • olwen83027
    olwen83027 hazel14263

    Posted

    So true, but don't give up heart. It will get better. Am 14 post op and am feeling great. Those first few weeks were tough though. Take it one day at a time. Xx

  • ian97093
    ian97093 hazel14263

    Posted

    Hazel...You are in pain and scared, and it will get better, yes it is difficult and it is slow to heal and it is a good thing to have done it will give you back your life.

    Yes I was scared as I knew there was no turning back the clock...its been 18 months now and still healing in different ways...Chin Up !! Dont be scared...perhaps a tranquilizer will help, keep up the pain meds too....

    Ian +++

  • Serenamcn18
    Serenamcn18 hazel14263

    Posted

    This will pass!  At 15 days post op, I had a lot of emotional troubles.. crying for no reason and a lot of anxiety.  I went off pain meds after 10 days, so I think it was my body's way of responding to the trauma.  It lasted for about 4-5 days.. then I really started hitting my stride and recovering!  At 5 weeks I felt like a new person!  Now, at 9 weeks I have absolutely no pain and just itching at the incision area.  You will not regret it!

  • sareeta50759
    sareeta50759 hazel14263

    Posted

    Hi Hazel,

    I am in the same mindset as you..I regret not being able to hold my 2 years old boy in my arms..play with him..is it worth? Am 5 weeks post op and 33 years old..make love w my husbsnd..I just wish someone would have told me not to do it..am crying everytime am alone..

    Not easy..

    Sorry to be negative.

    • hazel14263
      hazel14263 sareeta50759

      Posted

      Oooo no

      Don't feel

      Like that .. It's only 5 weeks for you ! Think we have bad days and good days ... I was soooo active and this is hard but worse things can happen . I am sure we will come out smelling of roses .. Chin up !!! Xxx

  • sandra_84282
    sandra_84282 hazel14263

    Posted

    Hi Hazel. Week 3 was my meltdown as well. Like you so tired. I'm week 5 and have found the muscle pain I groin femur and op site can be quite achy. I can also get quite stiff. However this pain is the healing from what has been a brutal op.

    We all get impatient and fed up. Cross with people who are trying to help.

    I have found recovery a real roller coaster ride. 3 steps forward 2 back. I've been bored. Fed up of the house. I want to be driving and back to work again.

    My surgeon had it right. 8 weeks to Drive and 8-10 for back to work. I remember thinking I would be recovered long before this. But no he was right.

    A big healing hug and hang onto. "This to will pass"

    • hazel14263
      hazel14263 sandra_84282

      Posted

      Yes Sandra I thought 6 weeks no prob ... Three weeks in and I can only hobble round house and still in

      Pain but yes it's brutal surgery you only have to look at the scars to see that ! Frustrating as I never sat still ... Weird being like this and yes I snap at husband .. He tries his best but the dog had no water , he forgot to Empty bin ... Aagghh !!! 😏😏😏

    • sandra_84282
      sandra_84282 hazel14263

      Posted

      Hi Hazel

      Had to laugh about hubby. Mine was like nurse Rachet first couple of weeks and they don't see mess dust nothing. I call mine. Half a job Bob lol.

      I had bad night last night. Woke at 5am with horrible groin pain. Can walk and move ok and do the exercises. On the plus side the femur pain and op site pain seems to have gone for the time being. Honestly a real roller coaster ride this. Nobody told us lol.

      We are all having a good old moan on here. See what you've started. 😃😂xx

    • bobbie102
      bobbie102 sandra_84282

      Posted

      😂😂😂 my husband is called half job as well X frustrating isn't it . Especially with young children and I see him doing everything backwards but I'm powerless to do anything about it . 😂🙏🏻

    • hazel14263
      hazel14263 sandra_84282

      Posted

      Sandra ... Half a job Bob .. Love it and sooo true . The goldfish has bought a flashlight to see his way in his green tank I swear ! I know it's a moan but it does one good I think and makes us feel better to know people are in the same boat !

    • hazel14263
      hazel14263 bobbie102

      Posted

      Yes Bobbie ...he can't see the dust and can only do one thing at a time bless him . I have a lazy teenage daughter as well

      Plus a boisterous staffie dog who thinks my world revolves around his walkies .. Plus 3 blinking cats that always want food ... But one cat loves being tickled with my grabber ...

    • Rocketman_SG6UK
      Rocketman_SG6UK hazel14263

      Posted

      Ladies, just accept it - no man can see dust, we're dustblind, and our brains can only process one thing at a time, we just don't "do" multitasking, that's your specialist area eek.  

      Luckily we do have other redeeming features, we can fix things (I can only just keep up with the rate my wife breaks things), we are strong so can lift things for you, and for some strange reason, you seem to like us enough to want us around.  

      What amazing things we all are, As the French say "vive le difference".

      Graham

    • bobbie102
      bobbie102 Rocketman_SG6UK

      Posted

      I'm really sorry if this offends 😁BUT men CAN multi task . Stick any man in a orgi and he would manage just fine 😏

    • hazel14263
      hazel14263 Rocketman_SG6UK

      Posted

      Yes lol I was being tongue in cheek bless ... Hope I haven't offended any men in pain 😜😜

    • Rocketman_SG6UK
      Rocketman_SG6UK hazel14263

      Posted

      No offence taken at all.

      And Bobbie, most men can only think about one at a time, really cool, despite what they might actually say or think they can do.

       

    • Rocketman_SG6UK
      Rocketman_SG6UK

      Posted

      p.s. Don't want to get too naughty on here. biggrin 

      Hope everyone is recovering well.

      Graham

    • bobbie102
      bobbie102 Rocketman_SG6UK

      Posted

      Sorry 😂, hanging my head in shame 😉. Being honest my husband is amazing, he's doing an amazing job and there's no way I'd be able to cope with any of this without him . He's my rock . Taken over everything I really couldn't ask for anymore 💘. I'm having a rough day today , can't get comfortable anywhere. Roll on week 20 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

    • bobbie102
      bobbie102 hazel14263

      Posted

      We are very similar 😂 Got the lazy teen too + 2 younger ones . And a dog . No cats though xx

    • Rocketman_SG6UK
      Rocketman_SG6UK bobbie102

      Posted

      There's always someone worse off than you are - there are so many horror storiessad.

      I could not have imagined coping without my wife - the wonderful Rocketwoman 💘💘💘

      Those of us that have been through it, all know just how awful what you are going through is.

      Best wishes

      Graham

    • hazel14263
      hazel14263 bobbie102

      Posted

      You are lucky bobbi ... My husband was great but after one week he was back in work so as I am on my own a lot now and managing more I

      Notice he has downed the support a bit as I can climb stairs and stuff ... Only natural and I am soooo independent .. Plus he has a mother with dementia to support so his plate is full . But that dust is still there so on a fun note I have told my youngest daughter who is back from uni next week I have saved it for her 😜

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