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RElapse after 9 weeks

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cormac10408
cormac10408

Hi, I thought everything was going well, went from drinking bottle whiskey everyday to nothing for nine weeks with no help, counselling or Valium. Saturday last week I had convinced myself I was fine and took my girlfriend for a meal and a drink. 

Safe to say I stopped Wednesday morning having drank constantly from Saturday afternoon and been convicted of high range dui.

Back off it a week now and just wanting to talk 

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  • cormac10408
    cormac10408

    Posted

    'Just valium' predictive spelling 

  • alex01280
    alex01280 cormac10408

    Posted

    I'm sure we've all been there. A long time off the booze = I'm cured = I'll just have one drink = falling off the cliff.

    ?As I've learned this year, some people can stop without any help but most need some support, be it medication and/or counselling.

    At least your off the booze again and can get back on your horse and ride into battle!

    • sharon7979
      sharon7979 alex01280

      Posted

      There are very few people on here who havent relapsed to be honest, espacially if its early days for you. That point I found was the hardest as its not just about stopping drinking, to be fair it takes quite some time to change how you feel about drink, look at the reasons why you drink etc... It can be done though. I am living proof of that as this time last year to be fair I really have to say i'd had my fill of life... one year on and to cut a long story short i dont drink anymore and i am honestly happier.

      You relapsed, if thats what you want to call it. Maybe have a look at why you think you really felt the urge to drink at that time. But bottom line is, move on. Its happened you cant change it but you can change now and the future. Hope you are little better now and message if you want to chat, ill help anyway i can x Sharon

  • Tori07385
    Tori07385 cormac10408

    Posted

    Just start again tomorrow and don’t beat yourself up ... get a few days under your belt and you will be on fire.... I’ve just got home after making myself go to someone s house ... after being heartbroken... slept over didn’t have sex ... but feel less me I’ve took a step forward in grieving for my ex But feel disloyal and feel like I’m in no mans land ... can’t go back but don’t want to go forward... not interested in this guy ... just needed attention... crying over someone who chooses to drop m like I meant nothing and my boy../ after 2 half years... anyway feel weird... walk of shame without shame ... glass of wine poured... then bed ... what a rat I feel and I only wanted to be loved by the person I cannot love anymore xx
    • Robin2015
      Robin2015 Tori07385

      Posted

      Too much going on in your life Tori.. We have to help Cormac and you as well! Robin
    • cormac10408
      cormac10408 Tori07385

      Posted

      Sorry to hear that now I suppose I'm lucky that I have my partner.  keep Your head up 

    • sharon7979
      sharon7979 Tori07385

      Posted

      It will get easier Tori, whether you and him are meant to be together or not. You deserve to be happy and if you focus on YOU, you will feel more in control of how your life is going with or without him. I really feel for you as my partner left me for a while last year, mostly because of my drinking. When my home fell apart, it felt like death had happened. But time does heel and you and your son deserve to be happy, whether your with your ex or not. To be honest my partner and i are now back together but we had 5 months apart and to be fair as time went on I came to accept that maybe as much as you want something with all your heart maybe it just is not meant to be, maybe there is too much history between you etc... By the end of the the 5 months i still wanted to be with him but I also ready to be on my own, focus on me and my kids. Yes time does help, it is true.  Its all you can do. I dont know how much you drink right now move on from the glass of wine. Its done. Its YOU and your son who are important. Focus on you and you will be better for him. Keep in touch if you like. x
  • cormac10408
    cormac10408

    Posted

    Thanks guys I'm back off it again now from Wednesday which was tough, the physical symptoms are not as bad ie shakes, anxiety .....but it seems easier this time because Now I finally know that even a few drinks will lead to complete destruction of my life. I have picked myself up.....again.....and will keep moving forward.

    Thanks for the comments, what a great forum this is 

  • ADEfree
    ADEfree cormac10408

    Posted

    From what I've seen, this is par for the course, Cormac.  Drying out works out well for some and really does seem to be the proper path for them. For most, it just sets them up for binge drinking. I'd suggest you set up a "Plan B" and read up about The Sinclair Method mentioned in this link:

    https://patient.info/forums/discuss/useful-resources-487627

    Look up Alcohol Deprivation Effect too.

    TSM helped me reverse the course of my addiction. I started it when I was drinking 300-400 beers per month (in US standard drinks). With TSM, I cut that by over 95% and have held that level since August of 2016. It literally backs the addiction out the way it came in and eventually I simply didn't care that much about drinking anymore. I I'm largely indifferent to it and when I do drink, I don't go beyond 3 standard drinks. 

    I'm sure you're under some restrictions wrt your dui, but the upshot is either you're going to remain abstinent or you won't. If it turns out to be the latter, Naltrexone or Nalmefene will help stop you from being sucked down the rabbit hole. 

    • cormac10408
      cormac10408 ADEfree

      Posted

      Thanks for the reply ade 

      At this stage I'm going to try one more go at total abstinence and give it my absolute all.  Three to four hundred a month to 3 drinks a time is a great achievement man, you should be proud.

      I'm meeting with a doctor for some advice and have googled the tsm approach, it seems that once I've decided to quit the binges got worse, so I'm really interested in it. 

    • ADEfree
      ADEfree cormac10408

      Posted

      Thanks, it was great to have the addiction just melt away bit by bit. It took about 6 months, but I was seeing progress every month and moving towards my goals so it was easy to stick with it. 

      Best wishes to you for steering clear of the drink, Cormac! Whether it be willpower and determination or something like TSM, I think you will conquer this 100%!

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