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I seem to be in a distructive pattern and I need some advice/talking to! I've always been insecure, I have serious self esteem issues and am sensitive to others beyond belief. I read up on relationship attachment syndromes and it does seem i an hypersensitive, over attach and cause my own issues - thats great to know but doen't help me
My partner and I have been together over a year, not a huge amount of time but ALOT has happened. We are both older (40s), have had a number of serious realtionships that have failed (one of mine was abusive).
We were doing well, move in, talked marriage, all was good. then I started to think osmething was worng all the time, that he was p*ssy with me. He wasn't. But me pushing it would result in a row. I'd expect him to leave, he wouldn't but I push and push.
its got to the point that I'm so anxious that he will leave, that I'm making it happen. I'm picking up signs that he's unhappy daily - and then we row about them. He's not perfect, he could do more to make me feel secure, BUT i know that its 99.9% in my head and that its me pushing him away.
How do I stop those thoughts taking over? HOW do I trust he loves me?
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