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Relationship Anxiety/depersonalization

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payal28410
payal28410

Hi,

I am 28 year old female diagnosed with depression 9 months ago. I have an amazing partner whom i love so much but my mind is trying to convince me otherwise and i cant stop thinking. I have been spiralled in a thought whirlpool wih negativity. I dont want to lose him but i cant love him properly like i used to. I have been on medication pristiq and sertraline and have had paxil earlier for 6-7 months but no effect as such . I want to feel normal again but i cant help myself. I feel so anxious around him that makes me feel so guilty coz hes so supportive. Please let me know if it gets better . I really dont want to break up but also i cant live like this. 

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  • Donna23316
    Donna23316 payal28410

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    Hello, it's perfectly possible to feel differently towards the one you love whilst depressed. You may think that you're not sure whether you love him. But, I wouldn't make any rash decisions as you are depressed at the moment and not in a good state of mind. Yes, you may feel differently right now but I wouldn't take that as a true reading of how you feel about him and your relationship. You say you can't love him as you used to. Well, I would take this to just mean that at the moment you feel unwell and are still trying to find an compatability, effective medication. When you do and you will, you may look back on this time and realize this wasn't your true self speaking but an unwell one. In future, whenever the doubts and negativity creep into your mind. Remind yourself of the truth. That you are not feeling 100% and when it comes to depression and negativity they go together like peaches and cream! Actually I don't really like peaches and cream, ignore the last bit! You get the gist anyway. It does and can get better with the right treatment. You can think and feel differently and back to you old self. One last question for you, would you be questioning this relationship if you were not depressed? Hope you feel better soon. Donna xxx

    • payal28410
      payal28410 Donna23316

      Posted

      Thanks so much for replying.i am just trying to find the right treatment. I hope i find it soon. Yiu are absolutely right depression can make me feel negative about feelings. I was so happy in this relationship and life generally before any of this happened. Prayers so that i find a solution soon and end this phase.
  • jan34534
    jan34534 payal28410

    Posted

    This  would be a great time for you to speak with a counselor who specializes in anxiety and depression. It’s very difficult to do on our own and a counselor can give you ideas that you may not have thought of. You need someone to vent to and express how you are feeling. 

    I have had negative thinking my entire life and I know what negative thinking can do but there are ways to manage it. Speak with a professional! I hope you feel better soon. 

    • payal28410
      payal28410 jan34534

      Posted

      Thanks for replying. I need to start CBT sessions soon but it feels like if i cant help myself right now how can somebody else . I hope i find peace once i start therapy.
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