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Hi. Really struggling and would appreciate any help or advice. All my anxiety is from relationships it makes me cry just writing this ! I had shall we say not the best starts in life and wss adopted as a baby. I have a great family and I feel really lucky. Can always remember feeling anxious from being 5 onwards. Anyway my first severe anxiety came days after getting married at age 23. It was awful and although I was in the marriage 13 years The whole marriage I was anxious around him which made me feel may be this isn't the right relationship for me ! Nothing would have stopped me marrying him it all felt the right thing to do ! I had many bf so don't jump at first guy I genuinely want to be with who I am with. I am in another relationship now ten years and again I am always anxious around him. Always anxious may be this isn't for me ! When I am not anxious which isn't that often I wouldn't be snuggled up to anybody else and wonder why on earth I ever feel anxious around him. Hardest thing is I can't and don't like to tell him. He is great and when I get anxious over my children I can tell him and he is supportive but when it's about him he takes it personally and upsets him so I guess I am posting here cos I can't talk about it. People who don't have anxiety would say it's not the relationship for you but it's the anxiety around it as I no it wouldn't matter who I was with I would feel this way. I get it really bad over my kids too and it's really getting to me because this is my home and safe place. I am less anxious at work it's the home environment that's my trigger which is where I should be happy ! Slightest little tiff can make me spiral with anxiety beyond belief ! Anyone help xx
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