Relationship falling apart!!!

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Hi guys , so totally new to this, but need some help!!! My partner of almost 10 years and father of my 3 children has Bn put on escitalopram since November, initially for a 6 months period to see how he feels after. We had what I thought was a pretty strong relationship but since he started the medication he has become really selfish, doesn't seem to have any motivation in life in general and just doesn't seem himself. Shortly after starting the medication he went out a night drinking and seemed to think that by drinking he could relax and didn't have to worry about anything. This has become a weekly thing where he's spending all of his money at the weekend going out and enjoying himself, he seems to think that before the medication he must have never been happy and now that he's on it everything is fine. He's recently left me and the kids and gone on a 'break'.. He is saying that he doesn't know if he loves me anymore and needs to sort his head out!!!!! It all seems a little crazy to me, we were totally fine before he started taking the medication and I was jus wondering if any of this seems normal, or if I'm jus hanging onto hope that it's the medication that's confusing him and that everything we've built for the past few years is wasted just because he ' Doesn't know if he loves me anymore' Please Helpsad

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    Dd so sorry to hear about this. As someone who has been on lexapro before for 9 months I can tell you it changed my personality for sure and the things I cared about. The good news is once you stop it, things will return to normal after awhile. The thing with antidepressants for some people are yes they work but there is no free lunch. They basically eradicate anxiety and depression, but they do it in a way that makes you not care about anything anymore. I felt like a zombie on this drug and I felt like just about anything in my life could happen and I wouldn't care that much. I'm not sure how you could get him to stop taking it but I'm pretty sure things would turn around if he did. It does not seem like this medicine is the right one for him. Antidepressants are taken by a lot of people and they do well on them but it sounds like he had a similar side effects to mine and I would for sure stop it. Hope things get better! Hang in there

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      Thanks so much , I'm still hanging in there only because I do honestly believe that the change in him is down to the medication, he will be finishing up on the next week so hopefully things will begin to get back to normal smile

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      Glad to hear! Yeah like I said, most people don't have problems with antidepressants but for some the side effects can be pretty scary and the worst part is doctors just don't understand it at all. Drug companies are being a little bit more honest about the side effects now which is good but they could certainly do more to make people aware of them. hope your husband feels better soon! Also, one more thing, I'd strongly suggest he doesn't quit the medicine cold turkey. I know this sounds obvious but some people try do this and it goes very badly and makes the recovery process longer. Try to taper as slowly as possible, it may take longer but it's safer that way.

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