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ingrid19972
ingrid19972

I would just like to know how other people cope.i have just split up from my partner not because of my fibre or arthritis which really inflicts on what I can do.but he saw me gradually get worse and helped me cope with the pain.how do u manage when you meet someone new and there are days you can hardly walk and can't go out and do things they want to do.went out with someone for a few months and I actually think he thought I was making it up because some days I can look so well.

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  • pollmadoll64
    pollmadoll64 ingrid19972

    Posted

    That is a valid question about dating .I have just met some one and was not sure whether to tell him as alot I'd people know nothing about Fibro. I saw Eastenders are dealing with this at the moment with Donna but Fibro is invisible! !
  • christine26761
    christine26761 ingrid19972

    Posted

    Hiya Ingrid..i have an awesome husband who does EVERYTHING..he is just soo caring and compassionate,...he says:their go I by

    the grace of God .if it was him..i would be the same, we have

    been married now for 39 years..however and most unfortunately some arent as blessed..my relationships with family and friends

    really differ, some understand my limitations etc, sone just havenot..i have learned to put healthy boundaries up with them..if

    they are too negative, i just dont bother anyone, they might feel

    sad but that certainly doesn't make be bad, we have to look after ourselves here...if they really love you unconditionally they will

    cone back with understanding, most of mine did...be blessed

    ingrid ..have a lovely day.😚

    • pollmadoll64
      pollmadoll64 christine26761

      Posted

      I have to keep reminding my sons as a single mother that I am not the person they knew before I got Fibromyalgia and it gets worse as the years progress but it is so hard not sleeping properly ever as with Fibromyalgia one never goes into a deep sleep! !!!!!!!!!!!
    • christine26761
      christine26761 pollmadoll64

      Posted

      Poor you, feeling for you, theres nnothing worse for fibro

      Not having enough sleep. Have you tried Amitrpthyline yet its a mild antidepressant used for blocking the pain at the nerve end..i take 25mg at night before bed at 6-7 I sleep pain free all night..it ttook me a while to get the right dosage though, and remembering this me, we are all so very diifferent, its well worth googling

      there are a lot of us it..its the only I need for fibro..be blessed,

      have a lovely day😍

    • bronwyn97278
      bronwyn97278 pollmadoll64

      Posted

      Morning Pollmadoll;  I have only just read your piece above (sorry but for some reason my posts get put Automatically into Deleted File).....but in answer to your "no sleep pattern", am wondering have you tried supplementing with Melatonin?  I have been taking this for over 12 monthss now, and find that it gives me the sleep that I/we need......I have to admit that there is only one brand that works for me and have to buy on-line here in Asutralia....(but have read re others drinking Cherry Juice which has this supplement).......Melatonin is needed for our REM stage of sleep  (the restorative stage), and it appears that we Fibro sufferers are not making enough Melatonin...............if you are interested you can Private Message (& hope that I get it).....for the brand....or try drinking the Cherry Juice that others do..................good luck.............Bron
  • bronwyn97278
    bronwyn97278 ingrid19972

    Posted

    Hi Ingrid; yes I do understand where you are coming from........this can be an issue for me, too...........as someone said recently to me  "if you had a huge gash/broken leg I could understand; but as I am not feeling what you are, I just don't understand".....it hurt me, too.......but there is literally Nothing that we seem to be able to do to get them to "understand".....I have tried Many ways, but to no effect...............so for me the answer is.."just let it go, as the relationship is Not going to Work".....yes we do become isolated, but also learn new ways of coping and doing what we can, when we can.............I know this hasn't really given you answers that you were hoping for, but know that I understand..............Bron
  • christine94335
    christine94335 ingrid19972

    Posted

    Relationships...My soulmate (or thought he was) saw my health declining.. I went from 125lbs to 98lbs in 1yrs time. He couldn't handle my health declining, nor did he believe or want to believe I was ill. We were and he still is very active, traveling, NASCAR, flea markets, always did something. We have split, I found him on the PC with another woman, and he tells me he's not attracted to me anymore, due to my weight loss and loss of energy..I was crushed!! I felt I could get past the woman thing, but feeling abandoned when I got sick was not in sickness and in health... Moving forward, it's been over 3 yrs now and I don't feel I have anything to offer someone, and don't feel on imposing my issues with another mate...
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