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hi love this site it really helps having the support you out there all give x
just wondering if anyone with HS is in a Relationship and how you manage it I'd love to meet someone but I have bad HS in my groin area and don't think I could cope with rejection over something like this
your comments welcomed please xx
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christine60829 anne52249
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raeven anne52249
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I don’t think you should be in fear of being rejected. I have had the same worry before. I started dating this guy back in early 2016 and I was totally upfront (In total honesty, I was scared and nervous but.. I figured if the man I am pursuing can’t handle it then.. he’s not worth it). I told him what had happened and what HS is. I told him that I have some pretty dark scars and spots that sometimes open and are painful, sore and they ooze. He told me that I’m totally honesty that he didn’t care, God made me how I am and that he would love me through it.
Trust me, I was in total fear to tell him. I wasn’t at all happy for anyone to see them but me.. because they are some pretty dark scars. It’s scary but I promise, the right man will love you through it all. Don’t be afraid to be yourself. It’s totally worth it!
lady5491 anne52249
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Hi Anne!
Dating with HS is possible. I managed it for months before I told my boyfriend. I told him about them because I was tired of walking around in pain, and I knew I loved him and him me. I was scared, nervous and afraid. I said, "Babe I've got to tell you something about myself.I really don't want you to google anything about it without me, because the pictures online are a lot worse than my case. I have a skin condition called HS. HS causes me to have boils/cyst around my groin and buttocks. It is not contagious or communicable.I do have scarring from past flare ups. I explained that it had nothing to do with my personal hygiene and that there was no cure". I educated him on it the best I could and told him how I manage it. I felt it was necessary to let him feel the scarring and some lumps I had down there. A little bit later I let him see what everything looked like. He still finds me sexy and tells me often that I'm the cleanest woman he's ever been with. **Telling him this will make him ask what can he do to help you. Be honest when he asks that. (Keeping wound care supplies at his house, bringing you things once you're seated and you're having a bad flareup, etc) As you can tell my boyfriend took it well and loves me all the same. He thinks I'm a stronger woman because of it