Returning to work

Thank you, it seems like a horror story to think about going back to work, as my friend (also a t/a) says its all right for her as the teachers sit more than even the kids and just get us to do all the running around, even when we are on our tea break and need something, come and get us rather than look themselves. thank you for your kind words. x

When people start with me about recovery I tell them very straight forward....when you've had 11surgeries, 3 different prothesis, 2 staph infections and 5 complete rehabs, please stop by and explain to me how you got along as I'm always interested in success stories. Be sure and bring some beer and snacks so you can take your time. So far no takers. Take care of yourself first and let the teacher learn from you.

AMEN to that!🤗

I second that!! I've always been one to go in when I know I should be off and I think they are expecting that this time however I am going make sure my knee gives me plenty good years so i certainly will take care of myself this time...school will always be there, I won't!!

Thak you again OFG 

Thank you Sharon, will certainly have to talk to head and discuss phased return, thank you x

3 months minimum !!! Of course u get tired making dinner, u must listen to ur body and you are the one to say when u go back. As everyone else has said , this is a long recovery. Be good to you!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thank you Damy, I saw the physio today and she told me that too, I am so tired don't know how i could go back. I've decided today I am number 1 and I am going to look after me!!

Thank you x

Thank you John, I'm 50 and am looking forward to a very full life ahead.

I see my consultant next week but saw my physio today and she said definately not till 12-14 weeks but check with him next week. I am making good progress, do my exercises(the strenghtening ones are the hardest) and walk and use a static bike 20 mins daily. i drove for the first time today and it was brilliant not to rely on my husband. Thank you for your kind words, I have realised something today as i said to Damy I am number 1 and I am going to look after me!! she just annoyed me yeasterday saying I thought you would be back. I think once I sleep all night and can get up felling refreshed then i definately will be more prepared to go back to work.

Thank you x

No one who hasn't had this surgery has any clue as to how and when one should heal. Her expectations were based on very little knowledge .

i had a friend say: " can u meet me for dinner next week?" I " I'm not ready to go out at night, galavanting about", her" IS THAT NORMAL????"!!!!!!!!!

they do not mean harm, they are just ignorant to the facts.

at this point in my life, I've learned that it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Nor what we think of them. Just continue to be ur own best advocate😍🤗☺️💁🏻

I know Damy, in the evenings I am really tired and the last thing i want is to out, I turned 50 two weeks after my op and my children(all grown up) were not happy i did not want to go out and have a big party..all I wanted was cuddle up on sofa and watch a dvd with a chinese. I won and from now on i will continue to win and do what i want instead of what everyone esle ....children colleagues friends want me to do. (Husband not included in that as he has totally amazed me in his care)

Sorry for rant everyone as i am having a feel sorry day as so tired.

Thank you everyone for all support and excellent advice, so glad i found this site. xx

I just turned 72, and am 41/2 months post op. I do have more energy now and do go out at nite w/ hubby driving. 

I think because ur young,, more is expected from you. Thank god for great hubby's . Mine was also exceptional !! 

So funny, dvd and Chinese and couch is all I did on the weekends for months😄😜🍜 lol

YAY FOR YOU!!!

Just tell her that's normal for you. When the body says stop.......stop. You know The old saying that death is nature's way of telling you to slow down.......well, that's sort of what this surgery does for you. 6 years ago this month in had a colon resection and almost died twice.. The 1st time from blood loss. Shortly after that (5 days) the colon got a kink in it and another 4 hr surgery to straighten that mess out. This time my lungs said they had enough and pretty much shut down so off to ICU for 48 hrs in critical condition. I was in the hospital close to a month and I was 73 at the time. Within 3 weeks after coming home I was driving and back to fully taking care of my wife although her Parkinson's wasn't nearly as bad as it is now and she could still drive to the store. I recovered from that mess and was back full speed and doing things I couldn't dream of after a tkr. Mentally this is by far the most debilitating of anything including both rotatorcuff, one of which was due to being broadsided by a guy running a red light. Hang in there, the activity level will return unless of course you are an iron man competitor, then you may have to take up belly dancing instead.

 xx

You are awesome.    Not only recovering from all your ops, and looking after your wife, but having a great sence of humour too!  I have various health things going on - got hit in the neck just behind the ear with a swinging car door and walked at a 45 degree angle for weeks. Looked like I was drinking, waving down the sidewalks... Still having probs.  and I have a spouse in care with Alzheimers and that is more stress.  So reading your posts makes me appreciate what I do have, and makes me giggle in the mornings when I catch up with my posts.  Thank you.

Wow, u have been thru so much. Like everyone else has remarked, u have a great sense of humor. I do believe that that humor gets us thru a lot, and you are a champ when it comes to that. PLUS, u entertain the lot of us. Ha ha , I think the UK expression r seeping in to my brain. (The LOT of us)

if this surgery is so harsh, why do u suspect others sail thru it? 

Alzheimer care is a full time job when you are in good health. One of my my buddies from elementary school days starting back over 70 years ago recently had to be placed in a facility dedicated to Alzheimer's care. His wife was being destroyed physically and mentally as she was like a piece of Velcro and she could hardly get far enough away from him to go to the bathroom. He adjusted to the change mush faster than has she. The parkinsons has started to advance into the beginning stages of dimentia.......far enough that some of The kids are noticing.......so I am not relishing the future but I figure she spent many years trying to get me to grow up so now its up to me to be here to grow old. 2 weeks from yesterday It will be 58 years. Probably to late to start over.

Best if luck for your future. As for being hit in the head with a car door, just can't imagine the way that would feel but I do think I can understand being knocked crooked by it. That would make you want to drink even if you didn't.

Not giggling today.  Husband already in care.  Tuesday he was shaking and could not hold juice glass. And was throwing up. Wednesday he had to have a catheter inserted.  UTI.  Today he is having trouble swallowing. Seems to have forgotten how.  Doc coming tmw.  Will check for Parkinsons and prostate, etc.  My doc said on Tuesday I was 'frazzled'.  Ya think?  Also have costochondritis from lifting 26 boxes in storage.  Had to sell house and go into apt, only to told recently by Alz Society that I did not have to sell home to pay for his care.  Yet that is what miserable woman in hospital said I had to do.  What's the connection with all this to my knee you ask?  Got to greet it good enough to kick her butt if only figurativemy.😟

That goes beyond BS. Why can't trained professionals become just that, trained. Here, the next stop would be quietly getting the hospital people to put it in writing then off to the lawyers office to start the lawsuit. Makes your skin crawl to think that when you are already down someone kicks you again.