Rheumatoid Arthritis/fear of losing my Job

Hi! Barbara... Firstly, losing your mother must've been a huge shock to your system and you mentioned that you were diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis shortly after losing her, which makes me wonder whether another condition brought on this form of (muscular) arthritis. Sure enough, it can be quite debilitating and then there's the side-effects from the medication to tolerate! I do sympathise with you but, I also wonder whether you have had a chat with your GP about how losing your mother might've effected you... Were you offered any bereavement counselling? Were you treated for depression and anxiety? You could also chat to your company's Human Resources Department about arranging a meeting with your boss to discuss a 'staggered' return to work... Part-time initially to see how you get on with managing any new role. They do seem to be showing you a resonable amount of respect and I feel sure they would want to see you return to the workplace at the earliest opportunity. Perhaps it would do you good to get back into the saddle so to speak... It may even take your mind off of the discomfort your in and being given the chance to try a different role needn't be challenging! Most companies do all they can to accomodate employees with particular workplace needs and can even complete a work station risk assessment with you resulting in the provision of certain items to ease your time at work for example, a comfortable chair, foot rest, etc. Honestly, I think this diagnosis has been all consuming and you need to find yourself again... If you understand where I'm coming from as it does seem that a great deal of your time is being taken up with treatments, etc. I do hope that our little chat will help you decide what's best for you in the long-term... Please consider giving the work opportunity a go as you've nothing to lose from at least trying it. Take care of yourself : )

hi barbara. my name is Adam. Firstly sorry to hear about your mother, if you would like to call me sometime i would enjoy the oppourtunity to share some thoughts with you that may help with your condition and work situation...My mother has suffered with rhumatoid for over 30 years now and her spirit amazing me everyday, although i cant fully understand how you must feel it would be nice to talk.

my number is xxx

best wishes Adam

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Hi Maddi and thank you for kindly for responding to my concerns.

Just to say that yes I have had bereavement counselling and continue to do so.

My physical condition at the moment is such that every step and bend I take is extremely painful. I do physical treatment in order to exercise and to keep moving even when I am in pain to avoid being so stiff making moving difficult. I am positive and continue to be.

I am presuming you have experienced Rheumatoid Arthritis and the intensity of the pain can almost make you feel giddy with faintness which is what I am experiencing 24/7 but still attending these sessions which last for about 35/50 minutes and leaves me almost breathless with tiredness afterwards. I would love to go back to work and “get back on the saddle “as you put it but this is unrealistic at this stage.

I have pointed a return to work both to my Consultants, i.e. Rheumatology and Chronic Pain clinic, GP and Occupational Health but all say that because the arthritis is so active now it is important that it is under control first before I embark back to work. Trust me returning to work is something that I would very much like to do which I may not have made clear in my last email.

Again the medication side effects are awful and serious and this too has to settle. So it not just a matter of going back to work.

In some ways your email response makes me feel that you do not understand what I am going through??? I was hoping to get some ideas how to cope with the condition and ideas about keeping my job.

Of course a natural pre-requisite of both my condition and bereavement would create worry, low feelings and even depression but as you can see in my last email I am being very proactive in every area both emotional and practical in order to heal holistically on every level so I am stronger to go back to work part time then full time without having to take more time of sick due to flare ups. This condition does make you feel very tired too so pacing is very important.

I have done so much research as well on my condition via internet as and when I can to get a better understanding of the correlation and cause and effect and even looking at how food plays a role.

I do understand your response but fail to see how just going back to work in the way you suggest would help me considering my physical condition I am in at present. I have been given crutches to use but cannot use them as both my wrists are very swollen and weak and Ihave to wear splints to support them so it is a juggle to mobilise myself. This is the reason why physio and hydrotherapy is good as it helps with moving, how to use the crutches without experiencing pain and to reduce the stiffness to increase my mobility but I have been told repeatedly that it is not just going to get better overnight.

I am impatient and thought this condition would get better a lot sooner than it is taking and trust me it is very frustrating and worrying and complete nightmare to have to be on this journey. Even peaceful sleeping is not possible as I have to be moved every 2 hours to avoid my body being so stiff cannot move.

Typing is painful but I have a great carer who does this for me and this makes me feel less incapable and have a certain outlet to express myself.

According to the umpteen blood tests, X rays, MRI scans etc that I have had the findings are not so positive so I am doing extremely well despite what I have said so far and this is what I positively focus on.

I do think middle to longer terms aims that your return to work of course is my aim but in the short term it is about managing my condition in all areas and to do this without stress and agenda of politics of work and trying to get rid of me without offering me realistic reasonable adjustments which is effective, i.e. the desk job would be in a building that is not wheel chair access, no lift, and to get to the office I would have to go down up and down steep stairs.

I hope this paints a

sorry Maddid the end should read

I hope this paints a better picture of where I am now and if there is any other advice you can offer I would really appreciate it.

Thank you

Barbara

Hi! Barbara... I am glad that you are receiving all the help you need to manage your condition in the short term. It is difficult to comment on any person's situation without being aware of all the facts... However, if you were not able to return to your present workplace employer, but wanted to be able to work at some point in the future/once your condition has stabilised, your local JobCentre+ should be able to arrange for you to see a Disability Employment Advisor. I did lose my job because of a serious and debilitating illness which needed major surgery and I have been away from the employment market for over a year now. At times, I felt very low and it was difficult to try and keep a positive outlook. I only wish the very best for you and your health and I do hope that you receive the advice and guidance you need to know how to deal with your situation long-term... I wonder if you have thought about contacting ACAS who may offer some advice about early retirement on medical grounds, etc. Take care of yourself : ) x

Hi Maddi, thank you

Barbara

@ Adam, please do write your advice here so I can read it rather than for me to phone you.

It would also be beneficial, am sure to other fellow RA sufferers.

Many thanks, Barbara

Hi,

One of my suggestions would be the use of stabilised aloe vera gel. Although i do work within the health and nutrition please dont feel this is a pitch hence the reason i didnt want to advertise myself on here and talk personally. Its a natural recommendation for its anti inflammoratry compounds as well as helping to control the immune system. My family member has taken the gel and her energy levels have improved dramatically as well, rather then the constant tiredness and know other people that have come off methotrexate and other medication, but that is their findings. If you would like to know more i would be happy to discuss further on the phone. There would be nothing to lose and alot to gain.

Hi Adam thank you.

I am also looking into the role of alternative remedies and have found so far there is an awful lot of information and research findings like you mention. I am experimenting with various natural products and have a nutritionalist at hand to give me advise too.

Again I thank you and thank you for sharing as I am sure not just me would benefit from your suggestion.

Your welcome Barbara,

Theres was been in particular some remarkable results with this and aswell for osteo. If you would like to now more about it email at:

xxx

There is alot of information out there and from my family and friends experience over the last 30 years is that not alot has helped in particular but this has made a big impact to how they feel. I can forward you through email testimonials, leaflets and videos to watch, that are closely related to this.

Just ask if i can help in anyway.

Adam

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Hi Adam, thank you but you sound like a business company......shame really..

Hi Barbara

As openly mentioned I work in health and nutrition and didnt want to come across that way, hence the reason for not wanting to talk so openly about it without sounding like that.

There has been some remarkable natural results, for family and friends feeling the benefits of using stabilised aloe vera hence my interest in it. I was just wanting to share more information if you decide it was of any value to you.

Apoligies, I wish you well.

Adam

Adam

Hi Barbara, saw your post and thought I would reply as I can empathise with your situation. I am 43 and

have Seronegative RA, fibromyalgia and Osteoarthritis. I work for local government and was wondering if you do too? Under DDA they should make all reasonable adjustments to accommodate you in being

able to continue with your current job.

I had to reduce down to 3 days a week and take a £10000 paycut in the process, which is stressful in

itself. My employers then agreed for me to work from home for 2 out of the 3 days and I was set up with

all the equipment required. They also ensure I have any other things required to make things easier. I am very lucky in this respect.

However! As you will know, with these illnesses nothing is straightforward and my sickness has meant

that last year I was given a final warning - this totally devastated me, but was done purely as they had to

follow sickness procedure. This has now lapsed back to a warning, but I am bad again at the moment so who knows how long it will be before I revert back to a final warning again!

All the added stress of this only makes our illnesses worse, so it is a vicious circle really.

It is difficult to say what you should be entitled to at work Barbara without knowing more about what job

you do but you need to ensure that they have done everything possible to accomodate you.

Have you been given warnings etc already?

I appreciate it has been a couple of months since the last post so I do hope you have managed to get some resolution.

Big hugs

xxx

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