Scary thoughts about growing up,death of loved ones

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Hi everyone!I am a girl and I am 21. I'd to know if I suffer from anxiety or maybe it's just a crisis that will soon pass.However,every single day I wake up thinking that another day passed and we all are getting older as a result.I can't stand the idea that one day I will lose my parents.Of course no one wants it but the thing is that I can't control these scary thoughts and whenever I have fun with my parents or close people I unwillingly start to think that one day this day will be just a memory.This is so overwhelming.I can't enjoy even a moment that's why I prefer being alone.The fact that my parents are much older than the parents of my friends makes it even worse.I count days,months,try to see if they have too many wrinkles.It is so unfair to them but I can't help doing it.I love them too much but I get that this is not normal.I used to be a very calm,happy,rational girl but after graduation I don't see the girl I used to be

If you can give any advice I'd really appreciate. I don't live I just exist(

Thank you in advance.

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    I guess the only way I cope with the thoughts of losing people close to me is to mentally prepare for that moment and what I would do.  I seems that thinking proactively and preparing mentally seems to be the only way I can cope with the thoughts of these things happening.
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      Thank you for your advice Jim. I will try that as well.
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    Hi Sara..I'm 51 and have had these thoughts my entire life.

    The only thing that helps me the most is taking an antidepressent.....the antidepressents change the brain chemistry and you would be amazed when the thoughts become less intrusive.

    Some days now while on my antidepressent I don't think about death once....its not a complete fix....I still have these thoughts...but on the antidepressent...I am able to have some peaceful moments and the thoughts have lessened

     

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      Omg..I'd not like it to last my entire life.I really hoped I could get over this on my own without medicaments(I fear getting used to them but it seems I really need to be cured.

      Thank you for your reply and advice.I really appreciate it)

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    Or at least talk to a therapist...go to church? And talk to a preacher and see if they can bring you comfort with this problem...someone may say something that helps you to breathe easier.
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    Hi, Sara! I am also 21 and these thoughts bother me, too. They actually used to be much more intrusive. I am still dealing with other anxiety symptoms, but I find that what helps me not think negatively is to set goals for myself. I even started a Tumblr blog where I follow fitness motivation, study, and lifestyle blogs. I even started watching Youtube Vlogs. These help keep me motivated about personal goals. Just knowing that there are good things out there has helped me.

    Good luck and just know that there are always people here who can help smile

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