Scheduled hemorrhoidectomy, need help/advice please!

I can’t speak to the surgery but I can relate to an external hem not going away. I am past four months with a small one that makes it difficult to sit comfortably.  I am going to colo rectal doc for third time later today.  He has me following up since it is still there since my last visit 7 weeks ago.  He has not offered surgery and I don’t think he will.  I think he will simply tell me to continue to wait this out and hopefully it will finally go away.  I am thankful that it is not life threatening but it is very uncomfortable and taxes you mentally and emotionally.  

Ok so I was an unlucky one who was left with complications. 2.5 years of suffering after my necessary surgery to remove 4 large thrombosed external haemorrhoids I was left with anal stenosis. I then had to have an anoplasty to correct the stricture, so I have a V shaped scar on my buttock next to my anus and unfortunately after all this time with stenosis, my passage has permanently narrowed. 

I get what you mean about being conscious of them during sex but if they’re shrinking on their own I don’t think I would go for it personally. 

Why do they affect sex? Is it your partner or you because of their appearance or is it pain? 

I’m left with some pretty nasty scars thanks to the botched surgery and corrective surgery. But my confidence to have sex did come back after I had surgery. 

I think maybe you could speak to your consultant again? And make a definitive decision after you’ve been told all the pros and cons. 

Ps - I’m uk too and had surgery on the NHS xx

Hi i have just seen a surgeon and have been told i need the operation as the bleeding has made mr anemic. I am scared also as dont deal with pain i am thinking of the THD procedure less painful. I have until the 18th june to decide and then go back to see the surgeon. I have done loads of research and no one ever puts anything positive about the operation which doesnt help us. Look up THD its a new procedure. Good luck x

Before opting for surgery I would advise you to get a toilet stool to put your feet up on while going to the loo. It puts you in a more natural position and can help prevent straining/ piles/ fissures. You can buy fairly cheaply on internet. I’ve been using one for the last 7 months and have found it to be a complete cure. I even have a folding portable one that I keep in the back of the car and take on holiday. I can’t recommend them highly enough. It’s been a real life changer. 

Actually that success rate on hemmoroidectomy surgery is very high - about 95% according to medical stats and my surgeon. And yes, there can be complications. After I had my surgery for prolapsing internal hems stage 3, I had some issues. The wounds became fissures, which did heal within a month and a half. I am post op 4 1/2 months and am still not back to normal. Can't really sit properly (square on my butt) as it is still uncomfortable and becomes painful if I try. I also still have some pain and pinching with bowel movements but nowhere near what I had earlier in the post op and with the hems. 

I have some pressure from time to time and tenesmus (google it) but that comes and goes. The most important thing post op is to make sure to do metamucil and lots and lots of water and liquids. Avoid constipation like the plague. That will ensure that you heal quicker and never, ever get these dreaded things AGAIN! 

Upon my last follow up appt with my colorectal surgeon he said it can take from 6 months to a year to heal completely as there are a lot of nerves involved and they can be traumatized for a long time. But, now, having told you all this, I AM VERY HAPPY I did the surgery as now I have a good portion of my life back and am hoping that being able to sit normally again will come in a few months. I can stand for long periods of time so can work again and can lay down on my back at night, again, I could not with my hems or post op because of my coccydinia (incredible coccyx pain which can happen with internal hems) which was unbelievably painful. 

So if you go forward with the surgery, just make sure you get THE BEST surgeon you can find who specializes in it. Don't get a general surgeon. You wan't someone who can do this in their sleep, lol! And yes, with surgery, like life in general, there's always risks but what is the alternative? 

I would reconsider, maybe check out laser or try some over the counter remedies, maybe tumeric and coconut oil paste. I regret my surgery from 3 years ago. It was terrible recovery time, very painful. I am currently considering some laser if my current thrombosed rid does not respond to other remedies.

I agree with the comment about seeing a colorectal specialist.  That’s a must!

I am journaling my post op experience in another thread if you are interested to read it, just look up my name.  In summary I would say that my experience is not as bad as many I have read.  But it’s no picnic by any means.