Scheduled hemorrhoidectomy, need help/advice please!
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I finally saw a colorectal specialist who diagnosed two large external hms. He said they were resolving but gave me the option of a hemorrhoidectomy anyway, I’ve decided to go for it although I will need to wait up to 4 weeks for it because of NHS waiting times (I’m in the U.K.). They no longer hurt but I am doing this mainly because they are huge and external so prevent me from having any kind of sex life at the moment (I think my partner is considering leaving me because of this). I just want the lumps gone at all costs. It is really affecting me emotionally.
I have been reading posts online and it’s all horror stories of pain and endless recovery time, of them returning etc, I am so scared! I can deal with the pain and waiting but going through all this to end up with more would be devastating.
Could anyone give me hope or tell me of their positive experience?
Many thanks
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jimmy_13217 alizee86
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Sublime alizee86
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I get what you mean about being conscious of them during sex but if they’re shrinking on their own I don’t think I would go for it personally.
Why do they affect sex? Is it your partner or you because of their appearance or is it pain?
I’m left with some pretty nasty scars thanks to the botched surgery and corrective surgery. But my confidence to have sex did come back after I had surgery.
I think maybe you could speak to your consultant again? And make a definitive decision after you’ve been told all the pros and cons.
Ps - I’m uk too and had surgery on the NHS xx
alizee86 Sublime
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april83406 alizee86
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Sublime alizee86
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Maybe try a new boyfriend.
What happens if you suffer a complication which means you can’t do anal anymore?
I need to say that if you do go through this op, do it for you and NOT him.
Xoxo
Happybum alizee86
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And this is why you may have gotten your hems in the first place and you'll get them again if you keep on. Butt play is okay once in a while but all the time. Don't ruin your health and life for his pleasure.
tina84545 alizee86
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hellyM alizee86
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Happybum alizee86
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Actually that success rate on hemmoroidectomy surgery is very high - about 95% according to medical stats and my surgeon. And yes, there can be complications. After I had my surgery for prolapsing internal hems stage 3, I had some issues. The wounds became fissures, which did heal within a month and a half. I am post op 4 1/2 months and am still not back to normal. Can't really sit properly (square on my butt) as it is still uncomfortable and becomes painful if I try. I also still have some pain and pinching with bowel movements but nowhere near what I had earlier in the post op and with the hems.
I have some pressure from time to time and tenesmus (google it) but that comes and goes. The most important thing post op is to make sure to do metamucil and lots and lots of water and liquids. Avoid constipation like the plague. That will ensure that you heal quicker and never, ever get these dreaded things AGAIN!
Upon my last follow up appt with my colorectal surgeon he said it can take from 6 months to a year to heal completely as there are a lot of nerves involved and they can be traumatized for a long time. But, now, having told you all this, I AM VERY HAPPY I did the surgery as now I have a good portion of my life back and am hoping that being able to sit normally again will come in a few months. I can stand for long periods of time so can work again and can lay down on my back at night, again, I could not with my hems or post op because of my coccydinia (incredible coccyx pain which can happen with internal hems) which was unbelievably painful.
So if you go forward with the surgery, just make sure you get THE BEST surgeon you can find who specializes in it. Don't get a general surgeon. You wan't someone who can do this in their sleep, lol! And yes, with surgery, like life in general, there's always risks but what is the alternative?
madylon79184 alizee86
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jane16431 alizee86
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I am journaling my post op experience in another thread if you are interested to read it, just look up my name. In summary I would say that my experience is not as bad as many I have read. But it’s no picnic by any means.