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Scream and shout and fed up!

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lou-lou
lou-lou

Hi guys, sorry to come here and vent but I know if I try to tell people at home the only reply I'll get is "what do you have to moan about, how can you feel depressed your life is easy! Blah blah blah" for once I would like to know how it feels to have someone cook your tea, bring you your tea, take away your plates then clean the kitchen whilst you sit and do nothing! Feeling so sorry for myself today and just want to cry, I ache all over and sick of this awful menopause and every symptom it gives me, I wake up every morning not even wanting to get up and dreading the day, my memory is shocking today and I can hardly even string a sentence together, it's only just 7pm and I'm completely ready to go curl up in my bed and cry myself to sleep! Why do we have to feel so awful and I actually feel bad for feeling like this sad xx sorry again but needed to vent somewhere! Just want there to be a switch I can turn myself back to me again 😓😓

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  • michelle50768
    michelle50768 lou-lou

    Posted

    Bless you honey. If it's any comfort I feel exactly the same. No point telling anyone in my house. They think I'm a hypochondriac.

    It's good to come on here and let of steam.

    Go and listen to some relaxation music download an app on your phone or laptop.

    Do some breathing exercises.

    Be kind to yourself.

    If you don't take care of you nobody else will.

    Sending hugs x

  • michelle46271
    michelle46271 lou-lou

    Posted

    Hi Lou Lou

    Sending big hugs. I wish things would get better for us. Do you get many feelings like this when on HRT?x

  • chelo
    chelo lou-lou

    Posted

    This is the perfect place to vent. It's nice to to comforted and reminded your not alone 😉 Or crazy lol!!
  • lou-lou
    lou-lou

    Posted

    Thank you for your replies ladies glad I'm not feeling all alone, I've yet to start my HRT as I still haven't been able to see the doctor regarding taking them with having aura migraines 😓 Everytime I feel sorry for myself or grumpy the Hubby always says what the hell is wrong with you, I've told him to google menopause he won't, he thinks the only reason I have the symptoms I have is because I've read it online and I'm also a hypochondriac 😡 Xx
    • chelo
      chelo lou-lou

      Posted

      No one in there right mind you want these horrible symptoms, forgive me but darn him!!
    • louise44105
      louise44105 lou-lou

      Posted

      Awwww, loulou. Sorry you feel so bad. Sending a hug, if it helps x
  • brendababy
    brendababy lou-lou

    Posted

    Lou-Lou I had a terrible day yesterday, in fact been really bad physically and mentally for weeks even months

    I've managed to go walking and shopping today with my husband, I've been really imbalanced drunk feeling, shaking and vibrating, sore stiff neck etc etc but no nausea or headache thank goodness, I had that yesterday with the doom n gloom depressed feeling which I can't cope with

    I'm on tibolone, been on if for 3 months, but I don't think you get enough estrogen or progesterone on it, it's a kinda half way house. I've tried lots of HRTs but the side effects have been too much for me to handle

    Just really wanted to say to you that you'll get bad days and days where you won't be great but manageable, I never imagined menopause could be as bad as this, I have two sisters one who's through the other end and one a year younger than me, she takes her HRT although she has problems with fatigue and a b12 deficiency she lives her life as normal, I can't get my head around how I've been affected so bad 😳

    Anyway, take strength from the fact that there's lots of us out there who are suffering the same as you but try and defy the symptoms and sensations, get angry with them rather than anxious i find this gives me some feeling of control if you know what I mean

    Things will settle and balance out eventually but try not to despair life's too short

    Hope this helps in some way

    Take care

    Brenda xx

  • lou-lou
    lou-lou

    Posted

    You are all so kind here and makes me feel so much better about it, I am worried about side effects on the HRT and have read a lot about them, I also Neva know when my period might come which I think affects my feelings a lot too and at 36 I should still feel 36! When I stand up from sitting down I feel like "a old lady" every joint cracks! I'm on thyroid medication for overactive thyroid which I'm now convinced is too low for me, I have also thought about trying to get blood tests to test my vitamins and see if any of those are low and if they are maybe sorting them out may help a little? X
    • sazzie42
      sazzie42 lou-lou

      Posted

      Sending you a big hug. xx

      Just vent to us on here - always happy to listen and send a hug.

      Take care

      Look after yourself and do at least one thing tomorrow that you choose to do for you x

      Sazzie42

    • looloo43
      looloo43 lou-lou

      Posted

      Hi Lou-lou. It's fine to vent hun, we all need to sometimes, especially when you have an ignorant husband at home (sorry, but he doesn't sound understanding in the slightest!) One night when he expects his dinner, why don't you say to him we're having a chinese tonight & you're paying!! I need a break!! Take control!! Try & tought it out til you see your doctor Lou, as we spoke about before & interestingly deidra's post, you may be able to start hrt low dose with close monitoring on the migraine side of things. hrt virtually eliminated my hormone related headaches & I did get the odd migraine during periods of extreme stress. Don't give up, don't let the ignorant hubby get to you - even tell him I feel sorry for you - when he asks why - say because "you haven't got the ABILITY to try & understand or listen to your wife when she needs support from the most important person in her life". then just walk away into another room (probably the kitchen to wash up by the sounds of it) & just let him think about it. My hubby is pretty understanding but my hrt has made things much better now. But before, we could chat about it, but he didn't really know what to say to help me, but would spontaneously give me a hug, or just hoover! His own little way of "supporting" me. I would really try saying what I suggested above, if not just in an attempt to make him think & be a bit more considerate. You ARE worth it Lou, don't be walked over. Hope you see your doctor as soon as possible to talk about the hrt. keep us all posted, & feel free to vent hun, you're not alone. xxxx
  • maria101
    maria101 lou-lou

    Posted

    Hi Lou Lou me too want to scream myself I have never experience anything like it,next morning I dread waking up to the same crap again,as one of the ladies said don't cry get angry with it because the menopause like us to feel this way we need to fight back those.brutal hormones show it who.is boss I have s friend who went through alot she is now in post and feeling much better then she was so there is hope for us as they say hang on in there I'm trying hard I'm on HRT a very low dose I scared to stay on it but help little with hotflsshes, try not to upset yourself to much you will get worst (((((hugs))))
  • deidra40034
    deidra40034 lou-lou

    Posted

    Sending you big {{{HUGS}}} lou-lou!!!  I too have suffered from awful migraines all of my life, BUT I do take HRT and have NO problem what so ever!  I go to a neurologist for my migraines, and there are meds they can prescribe for you that work wonders!!  So, you can take your HRT, and take one more pill for your migraines...daily...and you will feel great from now on!!  I suffered too long before I had to have a complete hyst, so now, I am all about being discomfort/pain free...I will take a pill..just fix me!!!  LOL  Bless You lou-lou!  I wish you to feel better soon!!!  XO
    • brendababy
      brendababy deidra40034

      Posted

      Hi deidra, can you tell me what tablet your neurologist prescribed you for migraine? I take it it's to prevent the migraine

      I'm very sensitive to tablet side effects so usually stick to taking naramig-Triptan which I have used for menstrual migraines for years but they are less effective now

      Thanks

      Brenda x

  • unico31026
    unico31026 lou-lou

    Posted

    It's ok to vent to us LouLou because we are all here for each other. You literally just summed up my life from the cooking of the tea to the aches all over to the crying and tiredness. And I get the same response as well except my family adds that they think my symptoms are in my head lol. Peri is a horrible faze in our life but we will male it through this!
  • michellemybell
    michellemybell lou-lou

    Posted

    Hi lou lou 😢😢😢😢😢

    I know exactly how u feel.

    I ache all over day in day out, I work hard up at 6 Monday to Friday and I work weekends.

    I dint feel like myself anymore feels like im living in a dream. My brain fog is terrible to I constantly don't know what I'm gonna say next.

    I'm also very teary abd embarrassed to show it so often cry alone feeling sorry for myself which then only makes u feel worse.

    Us women go through so much men have it easy.

    8 years I've been going through this it started with aches and pains in my shoulder then night sweats hot flushes then irregular periods now wow it's taken a jump the pains are just everywhere .

    I don't seem to laugh anymore abd I'm definately no longer the life and soul of the party now I'm the grouch of the party always moaning always hurrying people home not wanting visitors at my home arghhhh this is NOT ME.

    I just want my life back

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