Seems Like I Can't Catch a Break

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Hi Guys!!! Haven't been on here in a while. I was diagnosed with HSV-1 on my genitals late last year. I've been dating since. Some hits and misses. I recently..about 2-3 months ago started seeing a guy. I really really like him. I decided to tell him about my little situation. Long story short I found out he has HSV-2. (It might be on his mouth) I am so shocked and saddened. I almost feel like I have no right to be. But..I don't want 2 on top of the 1 that I already have. Advice? Suggestions? I'm so frustrated. Why is this happening to me? ??

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    I'm not 100% sure but I think if you've had type 1 down there for a whole you'll be quite u likely to get type 2 there... It's a different story if you were to contract them in a short time frame but I THINK it's not common to catch the second one when you've already got the first one for a while.

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      Established Type 1 carriers can still acquire Type 2 on top, regardless of how long they've had Type 1. Established Type 2 carriers do not appear susceptible to Type 1. Only works one way!

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      Sorry if this is off topic. But Im not great at working out this site. I've been diagnosed with HSV1 genital via a swab about 9 monts ago. I always seem to get an outbreak after sex in the same place. Only mild but still! Why would this happen? I don't think I ever want to have sex again. I thought 1 wasn't meant to reoccur. Makes me feel down over and over again. After I've just started to feel okay. Would it be my immune system?

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      I feel the same way, although I haven't had intercourse with my fiance yet I'm so afraid to in case I breakout again due to the friction. I had my first outbreak a month or so ago (it was horrendous) and I'm very curious to know what the second outbreaks are like? If you could explain to me the severity, pain level, duration (basically in detail) what you experience I'd appreciate it. Just so I too have a rough idea on what to look out for..

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      The second one isn't as bad. For me personally. But still enough to be upsetting and depressing all over again. They heal quickly, however I was under the impression 1 does not return. I am on my 4th OB. You might not be as unfortunate as me.

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    That's meant to read unlikely not u likely! Sorry, typing on my phone.

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    I think the fact this virus is so common. At least he told you he has the virus.
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    HSV-2 is uncommon orally. I'm assuming he definitely has it genitally, though. Was he ever tested for confirmation?

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      He just got tested a week or so ago. That's when he found out it was 2 and not 1

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      You sound like you really know your stuff! Do you know anything about supressive therapy (taking Valtrex daily)? I just found out I have HSV 2 and am trying to learn all I can. Also, what are the chances of my partner getting it via digital penatration? I am getting conflicting answers online.  
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      Gosh, how unfortunate. Was his test by mouth swab or IgG?
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      Digital penetration without any broken skin during periods of no outbreak should be fine, as the herpes virus typically requires an easy point of entry like mucosal skin or broken/open regular skin. Daily suppressive therapy would help reduce transmission risks generally. Is there anything you'd like to know about the latter in particular?

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      I was just wondering if it was worth it to take it daily. I just want to be as informed as possible so I don't pass this on to someone else. I read somewhere that with condom and meds it reduces the chance by 80%....does that sound right?

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      If he doesn't have Type 1 and/or the index value is well above the minimum for positive, then that's likely a true positive and it's most likely genital, not oral (or genital and oral). Type 2 is nearly always genital first, with oral infection a less likely additional infection acquired at the same time. Js

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      How were you diagnosed and do you suspect a new or recent infection? New or recent infections are more infectious, especially during the first few months to a year. The risk percentages are thus likely higher in such scenarios. According to the one oft-quoted study, the female to male transmission risk is 1% *per year* with condoms, daily meds and no sex during outbreaks (but probably higher for new/recent infections, as noted).

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