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Serious issues i need help with!!!

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aaron26804
aaron26804

Never done this where do i start.. My name is Aaron im 22 and since i was as young as maybe 10 years old i felt distant from the real world and like i didn't even know who i was, my dad left when i was 3 months old and my mum well she gave me up for the life of drugs and alcohol so i went to live with my nan from the age of 3 months old and even she couldn't put up with me so i went into care for a large part of my life, i have a long term illness i take medication for daily and take regular trips to the hospital, i have no qualifications and never had a job.. i have a daughter who i have never seen but only pictures and she is now 2 years old and iv'e tried court but failed and i have a current girlfriend and we have a little boy aged 10 months, i suffered with ADHD for a large part of my life and i don't feel like im a good role model for my son.. i have no motivation i gave up on life a long time ago.. i love my family and want to be a good man but no matter how hard i try life drags me down, i did have a heart of gold but now its just stone. i take things out on the people i love.. all i have ever wanted is happiness. anxiety takes over me constantly and theres nothing i can do so i never go out and i barely see anybody anymore ive lost communication with the world for as long as a year and half couped up in are 1 bedroom flat.. im skinny and look like a boy due to my stress im scared im going to put myself in a early grave.. i just need some advice..

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  • natasha91
    natasha91

    Posted

    Hi Aaron

    I am also 22 and I was abandoned by my mum lucky for me my dad plays a big part in my life and picked up the pieces but I went from being a squeaky clean teen to drink and drugs and I didn't stop till I put myself in hospital. This was my turning point and I seeked out help any any form. You may not think your dad leaving at such a young age would affect you but it does and I too have my heart of stone days still. But I think you need to speak to someone that is non family or friends someone you don't know like a doctor or councillor... When I was given the same advise I laughed it off and thought it was stupid but it works if you let it someone in.

    People don't truly understand the emotional connection to loosing 1 parent but you have lot two and that hurt doesn't just go away on its own.

    You sound like a proud dad and it's usually the people that have been through a lot that will do anything for it not to happen to their kids. you need something else to focus on in life a career maybe college there are places that can help with your education.. Before you know it your kids will be old enough to take care of themselves then what will you do.

    Live life as if tomorrow is your last but be strong enough to fight for what you believe in.

    If you can prove to your little girls mum that you can hold a job and make a life by supporting your new little family weather it takes months even a few year you will be able to try for custody again

    I hope it all works out and you speak to someone 😊

    Natasha

  • aaron26804
    aaron26804

    Posted

    Wow thank you I appreciate the time you took to reply and maybe your right I should seek professional help. Thank you again and all the best smile
  • natasha91
    natasha91

    Posted

    Just remember your not the only person in the world feeling closed off and sometimes in a dark cold place there are so many people you can talk to about the way you feel but family and friends sometimes aren't the best people to confined in. Talk to someone even me if you need to 😊

    Think about a direction you want to take your life in and work your arse off to get there like the rest of us. Don't give up on life yes it's shit and we all wonder why the f*** we bother sometimes but look at your kids they need you now more than ever and if you don't want them to have any sort of start to life like you did you'll work hard to ensure that never happens.

    Your 22 Aaron.. Get in touch with old friends and start enjoying life while your young the years slip by when we don't even realise.

    I wish you the best of luck in the future and getting your wee girl back. now get out the house and show her you can do this 👍

  • amanda373
    amanda373

    Posted

    Learn to love and accept yourself exactly as you are.What ever you do, do the best you can, and find a place in your heart to begin to let go the hurt and find forgiveness, of yourself, and your parents. Look forward, one day at a time. At the end of the day find one thing you feel you did well,. and congratulate your self;.Do it regularly, and change will happen.

    Look for the positives in life. Remember what you focus on grows.wishing you love and joy as you deserve.

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