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Seriously depressed after today...

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Just need to have a bit of an offload and rant... After 8 years of putting up with fissure pain (sometimes horrendous, sometimes sort of manageable, but never pain free), I was finally scheduled for LIS surgery today following two failed Botox attempts. I was admitted to hospital, put under general anaesthetic, and woke to hear... the surgery wasn’t done. I can’t even begin to describe the sinking feeling and despair I had!! Apparently my consultant’s junior surgeon didn’t think my fissures were bad enough. She came to see me afterwards to say that my bum wasn’t even tight and they were ‘nearly completely healed’, and that even if I am not incontinent now, I DEFINITELY will be when I am 50-60 and everything ‘loosens up there anyway’, and she doesn’t want to operate on me as I’m so young. I’m 24 now. My consultant never mentioned this and in fact said the side effects are over exaggerated and that I’d be fine. It makes me wonder whether even if she saw what she considered to be a ‘bad fissure’ would she operate then? I cried in her face and asked her if I’m just meant to be in this pain forever. I didn’t really get an answer. She prescribed me a laxative I haven’t taken before and said I’ll be reviewed in 8 weeks.

I honestly thought I was finally getting somewhere. The pain I am currently experiencing is a level of pain I’ve had MANY times before... feels a little bit better after a few good BMs, then in the next few days the tear(s) will open up again. Then if I’m super strict with diet and water etc, it will get a bit better again... but it never fully heals, which is why I need the surgery.

I am devastated and angry that I had to go through another general anaesthetic for nothing.

I have a tiny 1% bit of hope that these new laxatives might help... and I’m going to try coconut oil as I haven’t tried that before. I do sitz baths, squat on the toilet, eat plenty fruit and veg, prune juice, lots of water etc etc. Is there anything else I can do?? I’m really not hopeful after it’s been so long, and I’m sure I’ll be ringing to be seen sooner than 8 weeks time and be yet again begging for the surgery to be actually done.

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  • anthonyFx
    anthonyFx GC1801

    Posted

    After reading Junior surgeon I think you should find a new doctor a specialist my doctor did an examination and two minutes in his office with no anesthesia and was able to tell me if LIS was right for me..

    Sounds like they're spinning the money Wheels and too scared to take the risk and actually operate on you...

    • GC1801
      GC1801 anthonyFx

      Posted

      Yeah up until this point I had been seeing a specialist surgeon who examined me in his office without anaesthetic and agreed that LIS was right for me, it just so happened that on the day it was his junior that was going to be doing the surgery for some reason. I’d have obviously preferred it to be carried out by him as I expected, so I guess in a way it’s good that it didn’t happen yesterday.
  • juanita93228
    juanita93228 GC1801

    Posted

    I don't know if this will help you or not but here goes. When you take your sitz baths put a few drops of frankincense, lemon, lavender, cypress, and tea tree oil in the water. I bought a sitz bath from Amazon that fits over my toilet(lid up)so you won't have to sit in the bathtub. Don't use a washcloth to clean your butt, too harsh, this sounds gross but use your hand and don't use soap, too irritating. Some people use just plain water, but I use a fragrance free body wash when I'm in the shower. Keep that area of your body as clean as possible. When you wipe after a BM use baby wipes. I use organic ones called Seventh Generation from Whole Foods. Next, I used HemoTreat suppositories and the cream. I also have a squatty potty. After a month my BM's are painless. I keep the cream and the suppositories on hand just in case.

    The HemoTreat and Squatty Potty can be found on Amazon. If you have questions you can PM me.

  • Lucy35167
    Lucy35167 GC1801

    Posted

    Vent away hun!!! I come here to do the same as no one really knows what you’re going through unless they are or have before. Sounds like it was fate that kept the Junior Surgeon away from doing your surgery. I have been dealing with a fissure since January and am pretty admit for not doing the surgery though I am soooo over it. I still have to see a specialist after my gerneral surgeon follow up.  I hope he thinks I’m on the way to recovery.  I still have to try the hemotreat Juanita recommends but have been using coconut oil especially before BMs and also Calendula oil throughout the day. 
  • hayley77100
    hayley77100 GC1801

    Posted

    Hello, 

    OMg this is terrible - are you in the UK ?

    I have had a fissure for two years ( just over actually 2 years 3 months and counting) its horrendous and sooo depressing sad 

    i have had botox twice and also banding at the start of my ordeal  as they said it was just piles ( to be honest i think the banding caused the fissure)  

    i have tried every cream under the sun, the ones that was most successful for me was definitely coconut oil before and after the loo also a cream called Desitin ( think its designed for nappy rash ha ha and its american so you will need to order online but its only about a tenner) but its fantastic!

    Things will eventually get better hun try to keep your mind focused on other things - i know its easier said then done as it seems to be the only thing that occupiers your mind 24/7 especially when you are in so much paid.. mine literally took over my life i couldn't go out as i was in so much  pain when i waked or stood up - i have two kids so i felt awful that i couldn't really do anything with them that involved moving from my house.

    My second round of botox was in Oct last year and the last couple of months its felt soooo much better and i no longer want to kill myself after each toilet trip lol just kidding but i dont get that dread and the pain is minimal. 

    if i was you i would go back to your specialist and demand the treatment tell them its been going on far to long and you cant cope anymore..i think its so unfair that they let you think you was having it done and putting you under L/A for nothing! that is a risk in its self sad 

    keep your chin up hun it will get better smile x

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