Severe anxiety after moving overseas... help.

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I'm desperately in need of advice. 

Just over a month ago, I moved to the other side of the world with my boyfriend. Until now, we have been completely happy together, and my mental health was never an issue (i've had bouts of depression/anxiety in the past, but it has been under control for the last 2+ years).

Since being here, I have severely deteriorated in terms of my mental health. I have been constantly paranoid and obsessive over the relationship and I have never been like this before. There was no trigger for this doubt. I'm constantly fighting with myself, trying to remember that its all in my head and that things are fine, before I collapse into a state of panic again and seek constant reassurance. I'm so exhausted.

My boyfriend has been extremely patient however I can see the stress it is starting to put on our relationship. I don't want to loose him... I love him so much. 

I've registered with a doctor here but the process seems to take so much time. I'm in need of urgent help - I've started having suicidal thoughts as I'm beginning to feel hopeless and like I'll never be able to live happily again.

Has anyone else experienced anything similar? What should I do? 

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    ​Maybe moving over seas has caused some home sickness maybe? Contact family/friends from wherever you lived before maybe you'll feel more at ease. Use skype and stuff. Moving away can cause large amounts of anxiety anyway, so don't be so hard on yourself.

    ​With the suicidal thoughts, thats not good, you need to contact an emergency help line really and tell them how you are feeling. Don't panick though, your boyfriend should understand, you can always look up ways on google to relax and stuff aswell, anxiety hypnosis is good for me. Try to remember times you was happy and how you felt.. I know it's hard. Maybe some therapy is needed? Having suicidal thoughts is common with anxiety, i don't really have them personally but I have times when i think ''whats the point in a life if cant live it'' but you can! Get the help you deserve. Everyone has times where they struggle and need help its apart of life. But I strongly advise you contact an emergency help line number and also contact family and friends from back home.

    ​You're not alone!

    ​PM me if you need anything smile

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      Hi Katie,

      sorry for the delay in getting back to you - had a crazy week.

      Thank you so much for your response. Honestly means the world to me to hear some kind words and get a little bit of understanding. I'm definitely struggling with home sickness, however the level of anxiety is so extreme I definitely need to get some help. I've managed to get myself an appointment with a mental health nurse who specialises in anxiety & CBT  on Wednesday so hopefully she will be able to help me work out a plan. I've been slightly better the last day or so, however I'm still obsessing over my relationship.

      Hypnosis sounds like a brilliant idea - I will look into this asap. Thank you so much for the advice.


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    That was a big jump moving over seas. Stressful under any circumstance. See how it goes and if you find it is not working out then move back.
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      Hi Lisa,

      Thanks for your response. It's lovely to have a reminder of how massive a change I've just been through, and of course I'm always too hard on myself about these things.


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