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Hi, I am 22 years old and have never had sex. Lately, I feel unbearable pain in the opening of the vagina. I also wiped hard once, and I bleed. I fear that I may have lost my virginity. What should I do? I cannot go to the doctor because I am afraid
thanks a lot
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Whatisit90587 emmly08648
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hello,
i'm not a doctor but you should def talk to your doctor. the pain could be vulvodynia (unexplained vulvar pain), if your unable to insert a finger or have pain with insertion is vagitismis, or you could just be spotting between your period.
Losing your "virginity" means that your hymen has ripped during penetrative sex which sometimes causes bleeding. (Please remember that sexual activity includes oral sex and fingering. ) The hymen is more inside then external I would google a medical labeled female anatomy to get a better idea of where exactly the blood came from.
Also, I understand going to the doctor is scary. But they are also required by law to not share your info. All unexplained bleeding needs to be looked into further by your doctor.
emmly08648 Whatisit90587
Posted
thank you for your answer
i don't have any kind of sexuel activity.even i don't masturbat by my finger
just wondering if the pain had connection with losing hymen
and can i lose it without have sex ?
anonymous2630 emmly08648
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Why do you think that and why are you afraid to go to doctor.
Did you look at your vagina, how does it look?
emmly08648 anonymous2630
Posted
just After I bled, the shape of my vagina changed. I no longer see a membrane in the front, but I now notice a small hole about 3 centimeters away. It is where I feel pain. At the front of the vagina, I see two blades apart
anonymous2630 emmly08648
Posted
hmm, sound weird. What happens if you gently put your finger inside does it go all the way in? It should stop somewhere...
emmly08648 anonymous2630
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i think that will hurt
the hole is small than my finger
and i never try to do this
anonymous2630 emmly08648
Posted
I mean if it stops like 2 3cm in then you should be fine but if it just goes all the way in then you have lost it but I really dont think anything bad is happened. The changed shape i dont know havent seen that before i guess...
emmly08648 anonymous2630
Posted
i hope i don't lost it
the biggest afraid that the pain can be continued because of damage or maybe losing the hymen . and i can't go to the doctor because i don't have the courage to accept the truth whatever she was
my brain will never accept losing my virginty and my family too.
i'm so sorry ,and thank you for your answer
anonymous2630 emmly08648
Posted
I mean you could figure it out by yourself, there is like tons of pics of how it looks so if you just search for it and compare it then you will get an idea i guess..
Is that religion related or..?
emmly08648 anonymous2630
Posted
I always compare, but I don't find anything similar to me, a matter of religion, customs and traditions. Respect and self-love, and I should not lose it from the swab of a handkerchie
anonymous2630 emmly08648
Posted
Now im just asking for curiosity, what religion is that?
Like they dont have to be exact the same as yours of course - there are tons of different type of hymen but i think the look, layout and as you said it is very tight and little hole you cant stick my finger in etc. so i would say dont scare yourself anymore and just forget about it. If you get any irritations later or problems then you can take a look at it again or go to the doctor, it is also hard to say anything without seeing it but out of what you are telling i dont think you lost it
emmly08648 anonymous2630
Posted
I realize that my hymen is only for me and my body is for me only. My religion is islam .
thanks alot for everything you said
i appreciate your help and your time that you gave me
anonymous2630 emmly08648
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I felt for the same, i'm too..
As i said dont be afraid of going to doctor. If the problem for you is that the doctor could be a male - you dont have the option to ask for a female doctor where you live?
You are welcome...