1. Community
  2. Men's health
  3. Penis Disorders

Severely depressed due to my tiny penis size. Is there something medically wrong with me?

Posted , 8 users are following.

george46caravan
george46caravan

I am 23 y/o with a problem that has eaten me up inside from as long as I can remember, and has really held me back in life. When flaccid, my penis honestly looks child like, in both length and girth. I am straight, but due to my deep insecurity, I always look at others in the urinal, and I honestly have never seen another look as small and undeveloped as mine. I know people say it looks smaller peering down compared to from the side, but I know for a fact mine is way smaller. The glans are tiny, it has no girth to it, and I really can't imagine it that much smaller from when I was a kid. It is so emasculating. It has had such a significant impact on my life, and I feel so depressed because of it. I know I'd be so much more socially confident if I knew I had a nice hanging flaccid penis that didn't always shrivel up for no apparent reason. I've seen photos of men with 'small' penises, but you can still tell it's a man as they always have girth to it and pronounced glans. Mine honestly is about the length and girth of my thumb. I've quit rugby in high school knowing that the following year at senior level I'd have to shower infront of the boys and get ridiculed. I've never had a gf despite being complimented on my looks and personality. Ive got loads of mates, a loving family and good job, but this is something I'm always thinking about and I am really unhappy. When I go on a night out I know I could pull girls, but I never do cause I can't face the humiliation and embarrassment when I take them home for sex. Erect isn't absolutely terrible. It's a tad over 5.5 inches length but still rather thin at 4.5 inches (even thinner at the glans). The lack of girth here also makes me feel less of a man and insecure. I also have masturbated not porn from a young age, and recently came across a website called 'no fap' explaining the dangers of porn for real life relationships, mind warping, erection problems, social anxiety and many more. This website fully applied to me and made sense, so I have since quit porn and masturbation cold turkey. I honestly will never have the confidence to persue girls, enjoy a fulfilling sex life and enjoy life in general with this worry. I've read a lot of 'it's normal to get small when flaccid etc', but I 100% have never seen one as small as mine. I have no bulge in my boxers and it really just makes me feel like a little boy. Is there anything I can do to change this? Please I'm desperate. Would there be a medical problem like lien testosterone or something else as to why my penis shrinks and shrivels up constantly and medication to treat this? I massively appreciate anyone who takes the time to read and respond. Many thanks.

0 likes, 3 replies

3 Replies

  • james88919
    james88919 george46caravan

    Posted

    While it does sound like you are smaller than average flaccid, you are at or near normal erect (depending on the survey). Really the first step is to see a doctor, preferably one that is kind and caring and specializes in sexual issues. There may be a medical reason so it is worth checking out. Blood tests are straightforward for testosterone and other hormones (Try to get the whole testosterone panel including free and/or bioavailable testosterone as the total may not give the whole story). Second, while there are women who might criticize you (just as there are some men who critisize women for small breasts), part of growing up is realizing that not everyone is so shallow and learning to avoid those that are. There are plenty of ways to give women pleasure in addition to your penis so take a deep breath and go for it. Finally porn and masterbation have nothing to do with your penis size and when they are related to the other issues you mention it is often a symptom of the condition, not the cause. So feel free to go back to maturbating, and porn if you enjoy it.
  • ml66uk
    ml66uk george46caravan

    Posted

    We've had questions like this before.  I don't have time to write as much as I would normally, but it honestly doesn't sound like you're actually that small.  Some men genuinely do have small penises, but you're not one of them.  I'm a "shower" rather than a "grower" too, and I just went to compare the size of my flaccid penis with my thumb, and it's only slightly larger.  If it was cold, then it would be smaller.  I'd prefer to be a "shower", but I'm actually very happy with my equipment.  You describe 5.5" hard as "not absolutely terrible", but it's about average.  I don't know how big you think men typically are, but I just googled "average penis size", and the first thing that came up was this:

    "Previous studies have found the length of the average erect penis is a little more than 5 inches long and 1.5 inches in diameter. Specifically, a 2013 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found the average American man's penis is 5.6 inches long when erect and 4.8 inches in circumference."

    Other scientific studies will tell you the same thing.  Ignore anything based on self-reporting for obvious reasons, and remember that porn stars typically have large to very large penises.  Even if you've ever checked out amateur porn sites, the men will typically be at least average to large.

    If you google "increase penis size", there's a site from NHS choices that makes a lot of sense.  I can't help thinking this is a body image thing, and that your perception of your own body may be distorted, the same way that skeletal anorexics are convinced they're overweight, and that people call them fat behind their backs.

    I had a look at that no fap website, and while it wasn't what I was expecting (I thought it was going to be a religious site), I'm not sure there are that many people it would actually help, and unless you think you're in some way sexually addicted, I'm not sure that stopping masturbating will help in any way.  It certainly won't affect the size of your penis.

  • Guest
    Guest george46caravan

    Posted

    Your penis isn't small. The average size is 5-5.9 inches. There is absolutely no reason to feel bad about it. Plus, you don't have to have a big penis for a woman to take pleasure during sex. It doesn't work that way.

Back to top

Report or request deletion

Thanks for your help!

We want the community to be a useful resource for our users but it is important to remember that the community are not moderated or reviewed by doctors and so you should not rely on opinions or advice given by other users in respect of any healthcare matters. Always speak to your doctor before acting and in cases of emergency seek appropriate medical assistance immediately. Use of the community is subject to our Terms of Use and Privacy Policy and steps will be taken to remove posts identified as being in breach of those terms.