Sex

Yup nail on the head I feel like a sack of gone of potatoes can't even dress myself he comes home I have one sock on and baggy trackies as that's all I can hook my leg into its so frustrating playing 'hook a duck' every morning!!

Trouble is yes he has been amazing but also used it against me to make me feel worthless little digs 'don't need you at all now'

Sex is a big thing for him and me but he gets frustrated and angry because it takes time and a lot of patience to find the right position.

I do feel like what is the point in me being here 😭😭😭 xxxx

Sounds like he is the problem.

I'm being told I'm ungrateful and have used him etc.

It's not nice being useless im 29 had to give my dogs up and my son lives with his dad full time as I couldn't cope so being told I'm ungrateful when I'm really not hurts

Yes sweetie 😍 I too have one sock on and baggy trackies 😂😂😂 . It's very frustrating, I feel like a baggy bag of crap too 😪. But he really shouldn't be making you feel worse than you do already, that's nasty. That's not very loving and very unkind and thoughtless.

I'm just guna say it , what a total arse 😡. I'd have got rid of that along time ago . Do you really need that in your life . I'm sorry but it's when the chips are down you really see someone's true character. And his isn't nice 😷 . You sound like a nice person and I'm thinking you deserve a lot better 🙏🏻🙏🏻

I am eternally grateful but he is meant to love me so should come naturally I understand his added pressure and having to listen to me moan and be depressed but don't throw it in my face. He tells everyone I do nothing so I look lazy but I do try to help I wash up clean sides put washing on airer little jobs that help him even just to save 5 minutes but get called cripple, biddy hip, ungrateful c**t but when I stand up for myself I'm the world's worst girlfriend never mind the fact I took him back last October after he cheated on me when he went to a festival all weekend oh and then he physically attacked me in January so I went to stay with family in Spain for a month I still took him back but no I'm the world's worst gf because I can't currently hoover or perform sexually and I stand up for myself when I should keep my mouth shut 😠😠

Sorry guys

What are you still doing with him then?

Drummed into my head no one else will want me

Laura , if you take a man back after he's cheating on you your just saying " that's fine I don't mind " the same as if you take him back after beating of hitting you . Or talking to you like that . Please please please get rid , he's vile . Could you move in with family for a while?? I had an idiot once and it was a complete waste of 2 years I'll never get back . When you have children they look up to there dads , a boy would see your boyfriend and learn that's how to be a man , a daughter would look up to him and think that's how a woman should be treated, . Yuck !!!!! You are worth so much more , but you have to do it , no one can do it for you babe 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

Sounds like you have extremely low self esteem. You should work to rud your life of all negative influences and work on your self esteem. Nothing good is coming out of you staying with him.

I have nowhere to go. Waiting for him to come home with my car he's going mad at me down the phone so think I'll have to break the no driving for 6 weeks rule just to get out and go somewhere.

He knew the 6 weeks recovery would be hard and I knew he would cave well it's all my fault I've ruined everything suppose 4 weeks was longer than expected for him to cope. I get put down daily and just haven't got the strength to tell him to do one. Love hurts

Google " narcissist " very dangerous people. Get rid , your worth so much more . I had a saying many years ago , please excuse my language " I'd rather be on my own and lonely than live my life with a w*nker " once I got rid it allowed space for a wonderful new man to come into my life . He's the opposite. And hand on heart it's like winning the lotto everyday being with him . You could have that too , but you have to make it happen xxxxx

Low self esteem no confidence I hate myself I know this is a site about THR so I'll stop going on about other problems in my so called life. He is home now 😔

Your two weeks infront of me am 2 weeks after the op at 30 it is very hard to deal with and for him to put all that pressure on you is not helping your recovery one bit i would try and stay with some family or friends if possible to ease the situation and aid recovery

Laura

Why don't you throw him out with the old diseased hip ? Better to be alone and at peace than with a narcissist or psycho. Your not at a good place now but if you can find the strength you won't regret it . You need peace , healing , love and light . Get out .. You know in your heart it's the right thing to do X

Laura,

No need to apologise to us at all - we know what the recovery from this operation is like, the physical and emotional toll it takes on us.   Your story makes me value my wife even more, I must make a special effort to thank her on a regular basis, she has been my rock. 🤸

I do hope you 'sort him out' - you deserve so much better.

Hugs  💙 💚 💛 💜

Graham