Sex After AP Repair with TOT

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I have my Op on January 10. I know I have to wait +/- 6 weeks to try to have intercouse but I'm really Nervous about it. The doctor saw me two weeks after the surgery and he says that I'm healing really good, he even used a speculum and it did not hurt. Just hurt when he touch the stitches. I would like to know how it has gone to you girls.

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    From what Ive read some of the other girls have resumed intercourse and are enjoying themselves, me well ummm Im still plucking up the courage how bad is that !!! especially as I had my op at the end of Sept
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    I only had the posterior repair and this was one of my main concern as I was pretty loose before. I am very pleased with the results!
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    6 weeks is the earliest you should have intercourse and most women prefer to wait longer until about 10-12 weeks. It is very much taking things easy to begin with because it could be uncomfortable not only for you but for your partner. Imagine your sutures getting in the way. They may have dissolved by then but it's unlikely they all will have. There's some debate as to whether you should use a lubricant as well because they can make the sutures soggy. It's early days for you yet, just take things easy.

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    Hi.

    I had total hysterectomy, A & P repair and a tvt and I didn't have sex until about 15weeks. I had been checked at about 9 wks and was told my vault area was still a bit raw so to leave sex another 2 wks but I was so nervous. I then saw consultant at 12wks and he told me to get on with it. Haha. So I eventually plucked up the courage. It hurt a bit but we took it slow. Good luck when your ready. Xx

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    Hi PRLady, I can understand you being nervous about resuming intercourse again. I had anterior & posterior prolapses repaired three years ago - together with tightening of the perineum - and getting back to intercourse was causing me a lot of anxiety too. At that time I had recently married again after being widowed and that part of married life was very important to both myself and my new husband. However, I did as my lady consultant advised and waited the six weeks - and then a couple of weeks after that I think. Finally, when the time came, we were really nervous so had a couple of glasses of wine each to relax us before we did 'the deed'. We took it slowly and gently - and with a lot of laughter too - and wow, everything turned out to be absolutely wonderful. After that it just got better and better. Obviously things aren't going to feel absolutely the same physically (digitally); you may feel little lumps and bumps that didn't seem to be there before, but don't worry these will eventually shrink and cause no problem. I did ask my husband "Did things feel any 'different' for you?" The reply was, "No, not at all - it blooming was lovely!" So, please dont worry I'm sure everything will be absolutely fine. Just relax, take it easy and just be careful. My lady consultant actually recommended intercourse to help with the healing and I believe she was right. By the way, I'm no spring chicken. I was 69 when I had my surgery done and things are still going great. I'm so delighted I had the surgery done. In the meantime, well done and best wishes to you. Rest as much as you can as the more you sit with your feet up, the better your final result will be. LadyPink

    Love, LadyPink

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      LadyPink, Ive really enjoyed reading your post, thank you, you have given me confidence to get on with it with my husband after having similar repairs back in Sept.
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      Thanks! I'm just 33 years and recently married too and it's important to me to understand how it will be . Now it's 3 1/2 weeks from my surgery. I was feeling really good but today I feel a little of discomfort. I think it's more for my TOT. I'm nervious!

      Thanks for you advice and makes me happy to read that everything it's better!

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