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amb66
amb66

I was diagnosed with hsv2 9 days ago the sores have all healed up and I was feeling great with no symptoms I thought it was ok to try having sex with my long term boyfriend but it hurt so bad! After the initial sticking it in part it got better. We used lubercation. Does anyone know if this will get better? I really hope my sex life can become normal again..

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  • Cupidxo
    Cupidxo amb66

    Posted

    The first time after the outbreak hurts....it will get better. Have him go slow right now.
    • amb66
      amb66 Cupidxo

      Posted

      I really hope so. I had no sores at all on the outside but now I'm wondering if I had any on the inside. My first outbreak was not bad and healed up fairly quickly compared to other stories. I guess maybe I should have waited longer? Now I'm worried ill have this issue with sex..
    • Cupidxo
      Cupidxo amb66

      Posted

      You're very lucky youe firsr outbreak wasn't bad. I waited about 3 weeks to have sex again. I noticed after we did, that I had a little cut like thing near my hole. I'm still itchy. Your fortunate. Just take it easy and slow for now. I'm sure you'll be ok girl.
    • amb66
      amb66 Cupidxo

      Posted

      You waited 3 weeks after being symptom free to do it? I just feel so bed putting him off that long expecally since I thought I was good. It feel like it was ripping a little. It feels fine now. Thanks girl. Are you on antiviral meds?
    • Cupidxo
      Cupidxo amb66

      Posted

      Well tomorrow marks a month and a week since my first outbreak. I waited 2 and a half weeks after my outbreak. Mine were everywhere.. !!! Inside and out on the hole on my lips it was so bad. Just horrific. Yea, the ripping is normal I think. Because I felt the same way. Slow and gentle is all. I'm on supressive therapy I talk valtrex once a day in the morning before food. I'm hoping I can control this.
    • Cupidxo
      Cupidxo amb66

      Posted

      Well tomorrow marks a month and a week since my first outbreak. I waited 2 and a half weeks after my outbreak. Mine were everywhere.. !!! Inside and out on the hole on my lips it was so bad. Just horrific. Yea, the ripping is normal I think. Because I felt the same way. Slow and gentle is all. I'm on supressive therapy I talk valtrex once a day in the morning before food. I'm hoping I can control this.
    • amb66
      amb66 Cupidxo

      Posted

      Yeah idk how to tell if I had any inside. So your sex is normal again? I'm on valacyclovir once a day I really hope it works. We got this! I want to have babies and live a normal life I know I can.. Are you in a relationship?
    • Cupidxo
      Cupidxo amb66

      Posted

      Sex is normal. No, not in a relationship. So I don't have it often lol 😂😂
    • amb66
      amb66 Cupidxo

      Posted

      Oh good gives me hope for Normal sex! Lol I feel so bad for my man 😁 But he's stuck by my side through it all, so we'll see! Thanks for all the advise!
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus amb66

      Posted

      He ought to be understanding, especially if he gave it to you.
  • cartercali
    cartercali amb66

    Posted

    It does get better I promise , I never had any pains / issues or nothing .

    I actually had sex during an active break out And some odd reason it didn't hurt .

    But that's just me .

    Me and my long term boyfriend broke up lol

    It does get better , I don't think we even used lubrication at all . I can honestly admit and say the Main issue I had after my break out was getting wet / lubricated without anything .. I was scared that it was affecting me..

    Things do get better overall .

    Does your current boyfriend have it too ?

    • amb66
      amb66 cartercali

      Posted

      We are pretty sure he does. He hasn't had an outbreak but is going to get blood work tomorrow. He's been such a trooper through everything and is more upset about the weight then anything it seems. Your lucky. I think maybe I did it to soon I've inly been symptom free for 2 days. I really hope it gets better I'm on the suppressive therapy antivirals.
    • cartercali
      cartercali amb66

      Posted

      Suppressive medicine is a good thing .

      I'm scared to get on it because I currently don't have any insurance and I don't know how much it would cost out of pocket . How much does it cost ?

      My ex boyfriend got tested 3 times and he has came negative in all of it .

      And we had sex unprotected twice I think during an active breakout and everything

      Where did you get this from ? Your current boyfriend? Or?

      How did it manage to come about if you don't mind me asking ...

    • amb66
      amb66 cartercali

      Posted

      Yeah girl insurance helps! It's like 30$ for a 90 day supply with and like 250-300 with out.

      Idk where i got it honestly ive been with my boyfriend for 4 months now and I just now got an outbreak..

      I thought I had a yeast infection for a couple days and one day like 3 days before my gyno apt I looked down there with my front camera lol and I saw a little bump right by the opening. I tried to convince myself that it was just a blister from friction or something and they the next day it hurt so bad and I looked that day at work and there was like 3 or 4 more. I left work and went straight to the doctor because I knew.. I started the valacyclovir that day and she took a sample from a sore to test. The next 3 day after that were absolutely awful. It hurt to stand, walk, laugh, I literally sat in bed for 4 days. But the 6th or 7th day I finally stared to feel better yesterday I was perfect and today I was too that's why I thought maybe sex was a go.. But nope lol

      hbu how long have you known. how did you come about it?

      Are you in a relationship? How often are your outbreaks?

    • jessb1738
      jessb1738 amb66

      Posted

      Hi! I contracted this In June and had awful outbreaks ! I was worrying all the time about how its going to affect future relationships I was so depressed. But luckily I found an amazing guy who accepts me for what I have and it doesn't bother him in the slightest! ... I take acyclovir twice daily and I am on suppressives for around 4 months going to take it for 6 and see how things go from there... To begin with I was so self conscious and embarrassed about this but have to remember it is just a minor skin condition in a unfortunate place.

      I'm so happy ATM! But I just worry abouT the future and having to have that talk with someone else who doesn't have it 😢

      But for the mean time I'm good! It only gets better because! ☺️🤘🏼

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