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Sex after op

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margaret_46793
margaret_46793

I had  posterior repair  21 Oct 2017 and I finding sex nearly impossible, so painful feels so tight , thinking of going to check out with doctor, 😳

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  • Justsnets
    Justsnets margaret_46793

    Posted

    Hi Margaret, I had surgery May 8/17 and was not allowed to have sex for 12 weeks. Like you it was extremely painful and unsuccessful. It has taken many months but with perseverance and a very understanding husband whose very gentle, lots of lubricant, we are now good. Try to be patient and really let everything heal. I'm sure you will be able to enjoy yourselves in time? It's a big surgery and everyone heals differently.

    take care,

    Pam

    • Redhead1960
      Redhead1960 margaret_46793

      Posted

      Hi Margaret, I had my surgery same week as you on the 18 October, posterior, anterior repairs and sacrospinous fixation. I am too sore to attempt intercourse at present and consultant said not to try until checked again at 12 weeks which would be next week. But I am not a lot further forward in terms of the thinness and soreness of the skin at the entrance, no idea what is going on inside so intercourse will be off the agenda for a while longer. I do have the occasional orgasm though when in the mood, just to check everything still 'works' and I figure it helps with circulation, good for pelvic floor exercises etc. and  helps me feel a bit more like a woman rather than a patient in recovery or a list of symptoms..... But no penetration for me for a while yet, husband is being patient so far. You are not alone in it taking longer than the magic 6 weeks that I had been advised pre surgery. Hopefully just another month or so and we will be starting to feel we can have and enjoy a full sex life again. X

    • donna45631
      donna45631 Justsnets

      Posted

      I asked Margaret a question which was directed to you. You said yours was unsuccessful. How was it unsuccessful? ? I need a posterior and perineum repair. I am 54 years old and afraid that I could end up in worse condition that I am in now. I here good and bad about these procedures
  • donna45631
    donna45631 margaret_46793

    Posted

    Margaret~

    Yours was unsuccessful??? Did the rectocele return right away??? Sorry to hear this😒. Happy you are able to move on with it. I am 54 years old and need a posterior and perineum repair. Any recommendations? ??

    • donna45631
      donna45631

      Posted

      Sorry Margaret. I asked you a question meant for someone else. Prayers for full recovery.
    • sheila89754
      sheila89754 donna45631

      Posted

      My understanding of Margaret's post was that sex was unsuccessful rather than the rectocele. 

  • sheila89754
    sheila89754 margaret_46793

    Posted

    Hi

    I had surgery, anterior and posterior repair, vaginal hysterectomy and sacrospinous fixation on May 4th 2017. 

    I was advised to wait twelve weeks before having sex, I thought surely it'll be OK before then!

    It's now eight months since my surgery and intercourse is only just becoming possible. Initially it was so tight it was impossible, then it was really painful deep inside; possible granulation. I was prescribed Ovestin and hopefully all is now on the mend.

    We have to be patient and allow our bodies to heal, my stitches were all internal so couldn't be seen. It's a long old haul. 

    Good luck to all. 😃

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