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judia
judia

I'm 4 weeks post op posterior repair. I have been told it is 6 weeks after op before me & hubby can sex. Surely it goes on how well enough you feel in yourself. It's driving me mad not being able to.Has anyone else had intercourse before the 6 weeks?

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  • Jan999
    Jan999 judia

    Posted

    The reason you are told to wait at least 6 weeks is to give the internal sutures to heal. I have known 2 ladies have intercourse before the 6 weeks and they both ended back in hospital and needed further surgery. I can assure you the surgeons concerned read them the riot act because they had been so foolish and not listened to the advice.
    • judia
      judia Jan999

      Posted

      Thanks Matron, I best not try then. I just thought if the doctors etc can give you examinations before the 6 weeks that it would be okay. The infection I had has cleared up so I just wondered that was all.
  • joan98163
    joan98163 judia

    Posted

    Hi judia u must take the consultants advice , I'm 6 weeks post op I had my 6 week check from aving p@a repair only to find the consultant had to remove quite a few stitches that hadn't dissolved,
    • judia
      judia joan98163

      Posted

      Hi Joan, I won't be tying until the 6 weeks. As for a 6 week check up, I'm not having one. My consultant told me the internal stitches will take upto 4 months to dissolve.
  • chris00938
    chris00938 judia

    Posted

    I was told NOTHING goes up there for 6 weeks.  I'd err on the side of caution - you really don't want to risk doing damage if things haven't quite healed enough.
    • judia
      judia chris00938

      Posted

      Hi Chris, no I won't be trying now. Although it is driving me mad.
  • jassy45458
    jassy45458 judia

    Posted

    i would say do it when u feel ready xx
    • jassy45458
      jassy45458

      Posted

      listen to matron she knows ... i would defo wait now she said x
    • judia
      judia jassy45458

      Posted

      Hi Jassy, I am listening to matron and yes she definitely knows best.
  • lorraine79212
    lorraine79212 judia

    Posted

    Hey Judia

    i was ready to try and have sex after 3 weeks! Or so I thought..... Oh my god it was agony!! I thought I was being ripped apart!! 

    We tried again at 5 weeks and although it didn't hurt at all, I was very tense and anxious that it would hurt.

    i am 7 weeks now and things are fine. No pain or anything.

    on my discharge letter it actually said sexual intercourse should be attempted before the 6 week check up so that if there were any issues, then these could be discussed with the doctor. 

    Probably safest to to wait as others have said, I was just too eager to give it a go!!

    Lorraine

  • Jan999
    Jan999 judia

    Posted

    It would help if more information was given to ladies prior to discharge from hospital and a full explanation as to why you have to wait as well. Not only this subject but lifting, driving, exercise as well as running would be an enormous help.
    • judia
      judia Jan999

      Posted

      I totally agree. I believe at 4 weeks I can do light duties such as dusting, a bit of washing up etc.. No hoovering, changng beds or heaving lifting. I only spent one night in hospital after my op.
  • lesley12905
    lesley12905 judia

    Posted

    I am 15 weeks post op and up until a week ago still had back and pelvic pain we tried this weekend and it was still painful, I saw my consultant 3 weeks ago and have oestrogen pessaries for 3 months so hoping things will get easier, good luck and listen to Matron
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