sex and genital herpes
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im starting a new relationship, the first since i was diagnosed 4 months ago. when having sex i obviously know using a condom will reduce the risk of me spreading it (hsv2), however where do i stand in terms of oral sex? i am a female, is there a chance he will get hsv2 around his mouth if he goes down? also, has anyone experienced spreading hsv2 to their partners even by wearing a condom?
also the biggie, how do you tell someone new you have herpes. this is such a distressing thing to live with, i feel i have a constant weight on my shoulders.
any help and advice at all is welcomed
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Koolredd b22745
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I'm not on any suppressive medicine or anything and we've had sex at least twice un protected since my last outbreak , still nothing plan on having him go back at the end of February to get another test done ...
I can't say or for everyone tho , as far as oral he has given me oral like once .. He has a pretty boy face so me is very scared to give me oral which I can't say I blame him I was very scared for him to do it & not trying to get to personal but a female also gave me oral no issues I'm not quite sure how that works but I would love to know the rights and wrongs ..
Sorry about your diagnosis ... Don't let it get you down tho you seem pretty positive about the whole thing.. I'm completely scared to let anyone know about my diagnosis . Scared of their opinions and how they will look at me ..
Only person that knows is my boyfriend .,,
At least you have something or someone wanting to lead a relationship with you
I can honestly say that if things don't work out with me and my boyfriend I don't plan on doing the dating scene or sex for that matter for a very long time ., I'm just to embarrassed and more so ashamed .., scared and frightened...
What happens when you let this information out to someone . You break up and they throw it back in your face and tell everyone .
Like I don't think that I can deal with it ..
How many outbreaks have you had since you got diagnosed ,? Just one ?
How is the medicine that they gave you?
Just a future reference ... If you are already having an active outbreak the medicine won't do anything .. It only prevents future breakouts ..
I'm so so so happy that you are someone that is not letting the disease overcome you its major Motivation if you ask me and I hope everything goes well with you.
b22745 Koolredd
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do you feel comfortable and ordinary in your sex life? how did your boyfriend react when you first told him you had herpes?
i feel this guy is going to run a mile if and when i tell him, i keep putting off sex because im scared of the consequences when i tell him.
i ask those questions too, if i tell this new guy is he going to go and tell family or friends and make an embarrassment out of me. he knows somethings up, we have only been seeing each other a few months and he recently told me he feels im holding back on letting him get to know me - and this is the reason why but how can i just blurt it out to him.
im trying to remain as positive as i can but inside it is killing me and its not getting easier. i have only taken meds for my very first outbreak but i feel i need to begin suppressive therapy.
thankyou for your advice and concern, im very happy you are in a happy relationship with someone who accepts you have this silly virus. what annoys me most is at the end of the day herpes is nothing but a skin condition with no danger attatched to it at all, its the fact there is so much stigma surrounding it - people associate it with dirty people and promiscuity, when in fact anyone can catch it just like anyone can catch a common cold.
mary55677 Koolredd
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I'm in the same predictament as you !!!! The person that infected me never let it be known that they were infected at all , like how can you purposely have sex with someone and not let them know you have herpes . And now I'm stuck with it ...
Sex with me and my boyfriend is completely different man .,,I can honestly say that , we were really active sexual people with each other and now it's like he holds back from me which I can't say that I blame him .. We just can't out of no where have sex right that second in the heat of the moment we have to stop and wait for him to put on a condom ... It's a scary scary thought to think I would ever ever give him this disease that's why I'm always telling him to leave me and move on I feel like he deserve so much better ....
Hell I can tell you honestly if anyone ever told me they had herpes before I caught this I would've ran farrr away so i guess you can say that it's karma for me .. Smh
I can tell you that it doesn't even look like I have herpes down there . I would like to take suppressive medicine too so I don't have to worry about too kudu but as of right now I don't have any health insurance and I'm worried that it might be reaaaally expensive to pay out of pocket ..
My main when it came to telling him was that he would leave me which I couldn't even blame him if he did .. I deserve it completely .
The best advice that you can ever get from a situation like this is just be honest. ..took me a while to tell mine , but he knows .
And the man will either accept it or he won't . If he doesn't then he wasn't meant for you .. At all ..
And when you do tell him make sure you got all the facts together for when he asks questions they really like that .
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