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Lallydye1
Lallydye1

Hi everyone I am new to this forum but I would like to ask if anyone can give advice about my menapausal symptoms.  Mainly total lack of interest in sex and horrible vaginal dryness.  Sex is more or less impossible now. I am 53 but have not had a period since I was 38.  I had a marena coil fitted then and had blamed that for my lack of period.  Other than that I had no symptoms.  I had the coil removed when I was about 45 and - no period.  I  should have sought advice sooner but as I was symptom free and I didn't bother. I was also not in a relationship so sex was not an issue but now I realise my libido is zero and my ahem - lady bits - are like a desert, I realise that sex is no go and that thought makes me very sad.  I feel I am still young and active.  I really feel I have been dumped on the scrapheap big time. Does anyone have any advice on increasing libido and also suggestions for either eostrogen cream or lubricants that might help. Can you use eostrogen cream long term? Please help!

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  • bev14365
    bev14365 Lallydye1

    Posted

    Hi lakkydye im same had total hyster 2 years ago have not had sexy time since im married the thought of it irrutates me x
    • Lallydye1
      Lallydye1 bev14365

      Posted

      Thanks Bev, I hope it doesn't bother you too much x
  • Zigangie
    Zigangie Lallydye1

    Posted

    The best thing I've tried is HRT plus testosterone.

    Before I went on it I found using coconut oil down there helped a lot. I think some ladies said a product called Sylk is good.

    Before I started HRT I tried several things for libido. Horny goat weed worked for a while I still take tribulus tetris. You could also try maca but do some research first as you need to use a certain type (I think it's gelatinized) or it can cause stomach problems.

  • pam1313
    pam1313 Lallydye1

    Posted

    Ask your doctor to prescribe vagifem pessaries. After a few weeks of continued usage you then use them twice a week. They've worked a treat for me. My hubby used to think I was moaning with pleasure, when I was actually moaning with pain lol! I'm 57 and started with menopause symptoms in 2009. Out of list of 66 symptoms I'm sure I've had/got 60 of them lol! Every day brings something else.......but at least I'm not pregnant. Who'd be a woman!
    • Lallydye1
      Lallydye1 pam1313

      Posted

      Thanks Pam it really sounds like you have done the rounds with the symptoms.  I am really surprised that this vaginal atrophy and zero sex drive is my only symptom. I didn't suffer with sweats and mood swings so I should be thankful for that. 

      I will see about vagifem. I am back on the dating circuit so need to be prepared! Help! :-)

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