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Sex life help !!!! Pleeeease

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claydia93940
claydia93940

Had my first ob about 3 weeks ago now. Haven't been feeling any pain or problems thought it had all cleared up went to have sex with my boyfriend for first time since diagnosis and felt painful when he went to inserted. Told him about it. He freaked out thinking he must have got it from me now ha thinks i still have it. I thought all sores gone Away. Not sure what's happening someone please help. Do I still have outbreak ? Or is it just skin sensitive Or something ? Did I give it to my bf ? How long will it take till I can have sex again ? Freaking out here

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  • scorpio32
    scorpio32 claydia93940

    Posted

    Hi

    How did you find out you had this? If you boyfriend not tested himself he could of passed it to you. If you were unsafe and you still have sores then he could have it. They always say best to tell them about GH straight away before having sex and make them use a condom.

    I had to tell another guy aswell as my ex bf and his guy was clear. He had blood test but still not sure about if this true.

    Your bf may have it but not show symptoms yet. As you know it is not fun thing to have really and not something to laugh at. He must be freaking out about this.

    You just got to be safe. I had my first ob before xmas and new yr and not felt like sex yet.

    • claydia93940
      claydia93940 scorpio32

      Posted

      He hasn't had any symptoms we think i got it from Someonr else before him we haven't been together very long. he's been tested with blood test Aswell and said it was negative. ITs been a week or so since this incident and things have gotten so much better. I'm very lucky he's been so good with it all. I was wondering If anyone knows if an outbreak or the medication can make your period irregular. I'm on the pill and got my period randomly when I wasn't suppose to
    • feelbroken
      feelbroken claydia93940

      Posted

      Did you accidentally miss a pill? What kind of birth control are you on? Birth control can do that, buy other things can to. Nothing to be too worried about unless it continues for awhile.
  • feelbroken
    feelbroken claydia93940

    Posted

    As Scorpio said, how do you know it was not him that gave it to you. There is no telling if he got it from you if he didn't already have it unless he has an ob. I haven't had sex since I got this and my fear is it will hurt like you, because I've had pain w inserting tampons and removing them, which turns out that, when on y cycle, I break out w one sore in the same spot inside and that's why it hurt. It may just be tender still from the ob, but doesn't necessary mean there was virus present. You really can never know w herpes.
  • samantha21774
    samantha21774 claydia93940

    Posted

    I'm not sure what it is but I know that everytime I have sex with my boyfriend since I was diagnosed in June, I have found it sore afterwards and also have been struggling with tampons. I also seem to get an outbreak every single time I have a period.. Would be great to have some advice on how to get round this??
    • feelbroken
      feelbroken samantha21774

      Posted

      I haven't had sex since getting this in July, but by the 3rd day of my period, it will hurt to insert or remove a tampon. I apparently get a sore on the front inside wall of my vagina in the same spot. I breakout constantly or st least have symptoms every single day. My ability to probably have sex or have someone accept me, is ruined forever. I can't assure someone that I'm n it active, cause I feel I am active all the time and feel confident I would pass it the first time I had sex w someone.
    • samantha21774
      samantha21774 feelbroken

      Posted

      I feel like I always have symptoms. I may not have a sore but if I don't have a sore I have this horrible itchiness. And then by the time that's gone, it's another sore? It's driving me mad.. People will accept you!!! I haven't told many people but the people that do know are so understanding.
    • feelbroken
      feelbroken samantha21774

      Posted

      I'm the same way, even w taking valtrex twice a day every day. Are you taking meds?

      I'm talking about man is not going to accept the risk w me, because I'm always active. Do you have any other underlying health issues by chance?

    • samantha21774
      samantha21774 feelbroken

      Posted

      No I have some here but haven't really taken them!!

      I think when someone grows to love you, they don't see it as a risk. They understand. Well I've just had a blood test to see if I'm anaemic. Other than that im quite healthy.. Run down at the moment though and that also makes my out breaks worse

    • feelbroken
      feelbroken samantha21774

      Posted

      Most guys aren't going to wait to have sex, the amount of time it takes for them to Falk in love. I'm willing to bed, you're I'm your 20s.. Love doesn't happen that quickly on your 30s and 40s.. People are too jaded.

      Why wouldn't you take the meds if you're having obs?

    • samantha21774
      samantha21774 feelbroken

      Posted

      After tasking anti depressants for a while, I don't like to take tablets unless I feel I really need to and I don't feel like the outbreaks are bad enough. My first one was awful but since that they've been sore.. But bearable.
    • feelbroken
      feelbroken samantha21774

      Posted

      Yeah I get that and it's not ideal obviously.. Not for me either.. But from the sounds of it, ob or not, you sound like you are active a lot. Nof your bf has it, great.. I'd not, you are upping the risk of him getting it by not taking it. You'd also be less likely to get sore after sex and have the symptoms you do have. Bit each to their own. To me, spreading it to someone I love would be devastating yo me. I care more about the other person than I do myself, hut everyone has to do what they feel is best for them. No sincerely hope it gets better for you.. Hope I gets better for me too, cause at this rate. I'm going to stay single forever
  • claydia93940
    claydia93940

    Posted

    Not sure if I missed one or not. Took one really late the other day that could have done it. I'll see how it goes and if it finishes up like normally I won't stress
    • feelbroken
      feelbroken claydia93940

      Posted

      But u said u have symptoms all the time right? Why don't you take daily meds?
    • feelbroken
      feelbroken claydia93940

      Posted

      Just something as simple as taking it at a different time, can cause break through bleeding
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