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Sex problems with boyfriend. Desperate, please help!

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shelby91900
shelby91900

So, my boyfriend and I have been together for about two and a half years. We are really connected on a lot of levels, have the same kind of humor and interests and I love everything about him.

I was a virgin when i met him, and was very unsure about sex (even a little scared of it), so it took a while for us to have our first time. We finally did it almost a year ago and I was so happy. But now, we can't seem to do it again.

He is pretty girthy, and I'm petite in frame. But everytime he tries to penetrate, it gets only so far in before I feel pain and burning. We've tried different positions, copious amounts of lube.. nothing seems to help. And I'm at a loss. I don't want to lose him because we're so perfect together, and I love you so much. This is like the one thing he's asked for out of this relationship and I want to give it to him.

I don't know if it's because I'm still harboring some fear and it's all in my head, or if there's something wrong internally, or if my hymen isn't broken.. or if I just need to get used to having something all the way in? I'm very confused as we did it before and things were fine. But now things are back to the way they were before and I hate it.

Any help will be appreciated. I'm going to be looking into sexual therapy in my area to see if that will help too.

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  • aahmad6969
    aahmad6969 shelby91900

    Posted

    See a gynecologist, he or she will examine your hymen and if necessary they give you medicine for the dryness. It's nothing to fear. Just see a specialist soon and enjoy being together, practice safe sex.

  • Guest
    Guest shelby91900

    Posted

    In cases like this, it's all in your head. You aren't fully relaxing due to fear or anxiety. Unless he has the girth of a soda can, there is really no reason why generous amounts of lube won't get him inside you, unless you are just so tense your vagina simply isn't relaxing enough to expand upon penetration. There is a condition called vaginismus, which may be what you are experiencing. Women with this condition can be incapable of penetration due to excruciating pain, which is the severe version. Like any other condition, there are varying degrees of it. You can see your gyno, but it may be a therapist you should really be seeing.

  • martin31040
    martin31040 shelby91900

    Posted

    Hi, Try to relax and take it easy but keep doing it I'm sure it will come good, the body is very adaptable, try the spoons position probably the most comfortable and natural position, I hope you get to enjoy sex, nothing comes much better in my view.

  • kellyshane
    kellyshane shelby91900

    Posted

    It's all in your head. You should stop fearing. Relax and take your time. You should see your gynecologist. 

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