Sex? What's that?
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Seriously, between constantly bleeding, mood swings and wanting to kill my other half because he's done something unforgivable (like leaving a tea towel in the wrong place), my relationship is in danger of falling apart.
I met my other half last year and couldn't keep my hands off him. At 42 I never thought I would meet anyone. The first 6 months were amazing, it was a whirlwind of fun, we moved in together, went on amazing holiday's, meals out and had the best time ever.
Then peri-menopause hit me. And hit hard. I'm constantly bleeding, I feel horrendous, I'm angry all of the time, tired and feel totally un-feminine.
I am so fed up. Even on the (odd) day that I'm not bleeding, I don't feel like sex (I don't feel like getting up in the morning, let alone anything energetic). And when I do try, I'm constantly worried about either flooding or having a hot sweat.
I'm horrified that this is happening to me and I feel cheated. This should be the best time of my life and I've been robbed by my hormones.
I also have fibroids and the consultant wants to 'wait and see'.
I'm totally sick of this. I'm 43 and I feel like an 80 year old. I've had enough!!
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mumm9265 e48717
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helen10706 e48717
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after some time I feel I have come out the other side. I still have the physical symptoms, although I believe I am peri menopause so still haven't had got flushes, mentally I am stronger, so everything seems better.
Please be patient and hopefully soon you will be less,angry and more accepting of the symptoms.
accupuncture has helped me greatly.
thinking of you and sending good vibes! X
jennifer01077 e48717
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Hon, if you are bleeding all the time, you are probably anemic, make sure of your iron count. It makes a big difference to my mood when I am anemic.
Also, it's not necessary for you to put up with constant bleeding. You could try The Pill, or have an oblation, where they burn off the inner layer of your uterus. You might not have periods after that.
I've had bad and indifferent doctors, and I would keep looking for a better one, with better solutions. Your situation just sounds like TOO MUCH, and it was like that for me before I started questing for solutions. YOU GO GIRL!!
HotDot7 e48717
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Poppy1960 e48717
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Poppy1960 e48717
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shaznay96184 e48717
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For the sake of your relationship, which is quite new-ish (well to me, who's been married for 32yrs!!) I'd go back to the 'waiting' Consultant and tellhim/ her to get their finger out and referget you sorted!
I know exactly what you mean about the 'constant bleeding' element: totally unsexy, and thanks to spotting I never really felt 'clean'.
My sister had fibroids and excessive bleeding. She had a procedure called a Uterine Ablation: scorches off the lining of the uterus. Her's was successful, and resulted in no more bleeding. She then went into Peri with no periods.
this op has its risks of course, and if its not successful can result in a hysterectomy being an option. But it might be worth a mention to your Consultant as I believe this is a fairly common, routine procedure now for this condition.
I'm 54, got 11yrs on you, but completely share the same 'age' as you most days: I too feel 80, if not 90 on a particularly achy day
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