sex with prolapse?

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Hi everyone, I'm new. Since finding out I have a prolapse I've been single and haven't had any sexual intercourse. Not that there's anyone on the horizon at the moment, but I'm wondering how I could approach the situation if I met someone. I figure I should explain what's going on down there beforehand. I see that for most of you ladies here the prolapse was a consequence of childbirth, so I imagine your SO must be accepting of this change in your body. But has any of you met someone new after your prolapse? How does that work? Part of me is scared that I'll never find a man who can accept the situation. I'm in my 20's and I don't want to give up on relationships just yet. Thank you for any advice/pointers you might want to share with me.

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    Have you been checked out by a UROGYNECOGIST? They can help with options, from noninvasive to surgery
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    There are a lot of women who start a new relationship when they have a prolapse. Some men aren't even aware there's a problem when they have sex because it can move out of the way during intercourse. My view is that if someone loves you enough then he accepts you warts and all and I would hope he would be very understanding. You could explain to him exactly what is the problem and there's lots on the internet and this forum and website to read. You're right that a lot of ladies suffer a prolapse following childbirth but there's many who don't. I can recall nursing a lady with a rectocele and cystocele who was a virgin! Try not to worry and find a good urogynaecologist if you haven't already done so.

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    Hi becky, i had prolapse surgery 4 weeks yesterday. I first became aware after having my 1st child whn i was 23. Anyway as the years went by (im 38 now) it got gradually worse. I had a vaginal hysterectomy last march which may have contributed to the prolapsed worsening still. Anyway! My marriage broke down and i met my partner almost 4 years ago. Im quite open and told him i had a prolapse as soon as i knew we were going to have a phsyical relationship. After the first i time i asked him if he felt anything and he said no and to be honest after that i never gave it a second thought that he would. As matron said it probably moves when you have sex and it has certainly never stopped me! Hope this helps a little. All is not lost and an active sex life is still possible.

    Brie

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    Hi Becky!

    I've had a prolapse for 7 years and my husband never noticed anything, for him sex was great!

    Don't worry too much, probably your partner wouldn't realize either!

    The advice of the other ladies is good, I would visit a gyn, just to diagnose and control it.

    Hugs!

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    Hi Becky I was with my boyfriend for four years and he never knew I had a prolapse. I had It before I met him. I was worried too that he would notice but he never. Only have a conversation about it If It becomes an Issue. Don't let it define you. Good luck xx

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    Hi Becky,

    If your prolapses aren't severe there's a strong possibility a new partner might not even notice anything wrong. I had bladder, bowel & uterine prolapse & my husband never felt a thing as everything seemed to fall back into place once I was lying down. I've had surgery since & the only difference it made during intercourse was things are a little bit tighter-in a good way!!

    Without me going into too much detail, do some self exploration & have a feel of what's where, if anything hurts, does it feel any different standing up or lying down & then when the time comes that you are ready for a sexual relationship you will know what you are comfortable with X

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    I have stage 3 prolapse and I have no problem with Sex.
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