She’s never been kissed and the doctor suspects herpes
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My poor daughter. She’s 16. A virgin. Never been kissed. She had a yellow bump on her vulva. I couldn’t get her into my gyn so we went to her pediatrician. The doctor said it was an ulcer. Looked herptic. Took a culture. We won’t know for several days. How can this happen? I’m trying to help my girl make sense of this. We have a strong open no judgements relationship (pints of ice cream have been consumed). Everything online says it’s all sexually transmitted. She feels so cheated by life. I can’t find a way to explain this to hear. I have told her it’s minor in the grand scheme, it doesn’t change who she is, she’s still fabulous and she will still date and have a great life. But she wants answers. Help.
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( ironically an ex boyfriend gave me herpes about a year later. Which explains why I’m in this chat group.) even if it does turn out to be herpes... it’s not the end of the world I got diagnosed at 18. I have a steady relationship with an amazing guy and I never thought I would have. Coming from someone who has experienced it I promise it’s not the end of the world . Hope this helped
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If it is herpes (I don’t want to scare you or her but it’s important that you know) then she will have to tell anyone she’s going to be intimate with. Also (for me) there are times when I get so depressed bcc I think we’ll i knew how I felt about STDs and I wouldn’t have taken the chance why would anyone else? She’ll need your support through the lows.
Also if it is herpes and she has an awful outbreak. You can learn tips and tricks to help ease the pain of the outbreak.
But you are totally right! It isn’t the end of the world. Right now it seems like it is and it seems like no one will ever love you again bcc of this. But after reading so many stories on here about how people have found love and started a family it really helps!
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I can’t thank this forum enough for your support. My family’s take away is that herpes is wayyyy over stigmatized. We (my family) all had/have a huge learning curve on this ever present virus and are new champions in the fight to educate and destigmatize.
I’m so incredibly proud of my daughter. After a full day of crying, she picked herself up and moved on. And why shouldn’t she? As she said, once I resigned myself to herpes and learned it’s not the end of the world, life went on. Christ who does this at 16??? I’ve never been prouder. She can take on the world. I’m just grateful that this is not a mountain she must climb.
So for those of you suffering, know you have new allies. I’m truly p****d at The stigmatization. For many reasons. But so hopeful that a vaccine is near.
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