Should I call?

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In am using into boards a lot and feel guilty but don't know where to turn. My ex GF has anxiety/depression related to work and out of no where said she doesn't love me after saying she did two days prior and saying and acting completely in love for months. I work with her but don't really come in contact she works for same company 3 hours away. We haven't talked about anything personal in a week since she broke up with me and only spoke about work 2 times. I want to call her and talk with her. I am missing my best friend and I don't know what to do. I want to show support. She isn't taking meds but was talking about seeing a therapist a couple weeks ago but hadn't when she ended it. What do I do? I don't want to smother her but want to support her but honestly I want her back too. What do I do?

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    Being depressed doesn't mean incapable of making decisions, you have to let her decide on her own. It's her life,her decision and her illness. If she knows how you feel that all you can do, anything else will seem like your trying to control her. Don't put your own wants and needs onto her when she's already struggling. Leave her be

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      Thank you. I appreciate that. I feel like I'm in a death rattle with a relationship that I don't want to end and I want to have hope that She will regret ending itwhen she feel better. She had mentioned having anadonia and that is what is seems like but regardless it is hard and confusing.

      Thank you !

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    If she won't see a doc and take meds you can't help her.

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      Thank you ! I am trying hard to be there in my thinking, but I want her to feel better and know I can't force her to anything nor would I want to , but she deserves happiness and I have seen her happy just not since all the work stress increased. It is hard to turn of wanting to help someone you love and even now it's hard to not want to text her saying that I'm thinking of her, care about her, and am here for her because I am scared she will just push back or that is will just add more to her stress. I don't want to lose someone I love

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    Hi b36593 - sorry to read of your problem. Love can be a battlefeild. The best thing you can do for now is to give her space. You should also prepare to come to terms with the possibilty that this relationship is over. In the meantime she may consult a doctor/therapist, but, as hughscot has already said, the decision is hers. Best of luck to you, and remember that no matter what happens, you have a future with or without her.
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