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Should I even bother?

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sam18386
sam18386

I have the chance to finally go through my shattered past but don't feel confident enough to do this now, giving that I'll have to start again. Where do I start and how, had some counselling before but clearly wasn't enough. Please help I'm 44 and still scared!

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  • jmcg2014
    jmcg2014 sam18386

    Posted

    First thing i would say is that psychotherapy is more effective than councelling.  Couunelling has its place, it can be quite supportive - but its generally more of a conversation than anything too indepth, so if you can - opt for proper therapy.  Other than that, anything you say to either will be confidential, theres no judgement and you only need tell them what you want.  If you feel you dont want to talk to them, then theres really no point in going, itll only waste your time and theirs - they can help if you let them, but you have to open up first
  • shaz6098
    shaz6098 sam18386

    Posted

    Only you can decide if you think/feel it is right for you, but I thought the whole point of going through this was to get yourself into a Better place so that you can progress adoption?

    If you decide not to go ahead, and then get removed from their list. If in 6 months, you then decide that you feel ready, how long will you then have to wait to start? It's taken a long time for you to reach this point. You have shown a get deal of resilience and strength of character so far, which is an inspiration to other people going through similar. This is the last hurdle to get over, there is never gonna be a right time, but you are a strong woman with an end goal in mind. Don't give up the fight xx

    • sam18386
      sam18386 shaz6098

      Posted

      Hi ladies, I agree with needing support, I have found a counsellor who deals with PTSD. My problem is someone has thrown a spanner in the works and now says I can't adopt or foster as I have ibs, but wasn't told this when we first found out. Why do I bother fighting for anything all my fight has now gone. Just write I was raped on my head , then I WILL need help won't I? Bern judged again WITHOUT any proof! Why not let me physicallt HANDLE a child and let people see how much love I have to give. Why should I JUST be a rape victim? I DON'T want to be? Now just sad. Truly.

    • jmcg2014
      jmcg2014 sam18386

      Posted

      Why would ibs preclude you from adopting or fostering? It would make zero difference, like.saying you can't adopt if you had broken your leg once 10 years ago, totally irrelevant

    • sam18386
      sam18386 jmcg2014

      Posted

      I agree I think I've been put off by them for some reason but don't get why. Just gutted.

    • sam18386
      sam18386 jmcg2014

      Posted

      I now luckily have an update, a friend of mine at county hall, who has been througj the same thing and she is going to try to find some more information out for me. It's given me a little more hope.

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