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Should I see a doctor?

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Hey everyone,

Well I'm brand new here. Thought this would be the perfect place to spill out the contents of my mind and ask opinions. Apologies in advanced if this is a little long...

So basically I'm wondering if I'm "normal" or should get myself down the doctors...

A bit of background. My life has always been pretty good. However, my mother became severely mentally ill when I was about 4. My father looked after her a lot and so we were pretty poor. Few days without electric and that kind of thing but no shortage of love. We were a regular family.

Has always been in the back of my (and my older sisters) mind that my mothers illnesses could be passed on (we were told this years ago).

Well anyway, more recently my mother has passed away...a year ago now. And also my wife has had an affair, with a women! I spend a lot of time working away which gets lonely too.

So what I'm really asking I suppose is are all my negative thoughts something I need help for or just part of having a tough year. Let me list a few that concern me most (and I'm sorry if some of these seem silly)...

- I don't sleep even though I'm tired. I just can't bring myself to go to bed. I often fall asleep on the sofa because I'm just too tired to stay awake anymore.

- I am terrified of stupid things. My job, to the point where I avoid places. Waking my kids and sometimes facing people.

- Every so often I just want to run away on my own and be depressed. It's like I go in to almost a blank state.

- Lonliness

- Some reckless behaviour (which I don't really want to reveal on here)

- General constant tiredness, disinterest and nervousness.

- Constant eating.

- A bit of paranoia

- Negative attitude

I have had all of these for a long time, probably since childhood but more recently it has all become a lot worse. I've always felt like I'm a bit mad, but I'm becoming to be convinced of it as they get worse.

Now what is really holding me back is that no-one I know has noticed, so maybe I'm imagining everything? And I don't want anyone thinking that I'm making it up for attention or anything like that. I'm especially reluctant to see a doctor for much the same reason. If he says its nothing I will feel very silly and will have to explain to my family that I'm being an idiot...don't really fancy that.

I've done my research and it's like I've had most symptoms, but not really severely.

So...is it all in my head, or could it be something more?

Thank you for taking the time to read such an essay.

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  • simon1975mar
    simon1975mar chain_smoker

    Posted

    Hi - it sounds like you're having a rough time. Especially since, in the past year, you've lost your mother and your wife has had an affair. Either of these events is enough to cause a person to suffer stress and possible depression.

    I think your symptoms are reflective of the events in your life. You don't sound crazy or abnormal. And I certainly don't think that you've somehow acquired the mental health condition that your mother suffered from.

    But, as you're lifestyle has changed - and you are suffering - I do suggest that you speak to your doctor. However, I'm guessing that there's nothing seriously wrong with you.

    Take care.

  • Aspinan
    Aspinan chain_smoker

    Posted

    Simon is right but the symptoms suggest it's developed into a depressed state, especially if you are feeling a bit of paranoia and recklessnes behaviours.

    Go see your GP explain the symptoms and what has happened and you won't be (or shouldn't) be dismissed as making it up, these are your feelings and they can't be seen, but a Dr will know exactly where your coming from and will treat you accordingly. 

    N

  • parvin1982
    parvin1982 chain_smoker

    Posted

    Hi, I dont think your mad, although symtoms may make you feel this way,, dg nsrvousness anxietues lavk self confudence etc,,, I think you shoukd focus in more pisituves though,, I rdcommdnd a book called the secret,,, and maybe reading upmon some dalai lama quotes,, sound to me as though your feelung ill threw nsvagivity n you have power to change that! Medication only csuses more side effects whuch cause more probs so on,,,, focus on positivity and those depending on you ! Your health is in your own hands ,,,, take it easy and enjoy !
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