Should I still feel like this?

Sam

You are grieving, Today is Easter Sunday and you have been left with a very difficult situation.

Was your Father in Hospital when He died or at home ? Whatever the situation is and where you live in the World you will need to make some decisions regards your Fathers remains.

Do you know who your Mother has gone on holiday with and where they are staying. If not the holiday company may be able to help.?

Has your Mother or any family members taken their mobiles this may help you contact them.

You will be feeling stressed also distressed. I do not know your family dynamics so it is hard to suggest a way forward at this time that can help you. I would suggest you contact other family members that may be able to help

Has your Father been taken to a Morgue or did He die in the home etc

BOB

Being sad after a death is absolutely normal, and can last for a long time. Anniversaries of deaths of loved ones can trigger bouts of extreme sadness. Try to remember the good things about the deceased person, happy memories, celebrate their life rather than mourning their death. We all die. It's how we live that matters. 

 

You may still be sad about your dad. I’m so very sorry. It may have been on your mind that could be why you are feeling sad. 

Don’t guilt yourself out over Church. Sometimes it’s too hard. If you constantly feel low, and experience crying and tiredness and not wanting to do anything at all contact a professional.

You can always come back here and vent or talk. 

Of course you feel the way you do. It called grief and is perfectly normal. Let yourself cry, feel lost and abandoned. Let it out don’t expect anything from yourself. You will feel this way every Easter for a while but in years it does get easier. Try to remember your family members may be experiencing grief too but express it differently. ❤️

Hi Sam..it is not unusual at all to feel like this. Everybody is different and grieve different. There's no set time to stop grieving. I wouldn't feel guilty for not going to Church either. You can say prayers anywhere and think of your Dad anywhere. I would go back to the Doctors. I'm on Citalopram....seretonin....tell the Doctor you are still depressed. You have to believe your Dad isn't suffering anymore and that he is happy. Would he want you to feel like this?....I doubt it....I don't know if you have kids....but you will get better....

Sam

I picked up you had just lost your father today, Easter Sunday, I did not pick up from you this was the 6th year of your Loss.

If you are still grieving after such a long time, I would imagine AD medications may help You granted lost someone in the past, dwelling on a loss after such a long time your Counsellor will need to know you are still grieving and you will need to move on. Generally speaking two years will pass and the person should be seeing the light at the end of the tunnel of Grief. We never get over a loss however we need to move on and consider given a long time you will meet those who have gone before on the other side. A celebration will be had when meeting those you knew and many relatives you have never met before

BOB

Hi I can't really add to what's been said but I just thought maybe your families way of dealing with your dad's passing is to go on holiday?  Do you think this would help you too?

I think you have to do what makes you feel most comfortable so don't beat yourself up for not going to church.  Anniversaries are always very hard aren't they?  Take care.  x