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Should I tell about herpes before we kiss?

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rockee37208
rockee37208

I've been dating a guy for only a few days now (5), and I really like him. We've hung out almost every day and cuddled a bit but I've been putting off kissing because I have hsv 1 & 2. I know he's waiting for me to make the first move. Some people say that kissing is OK, but I'm so nervous about it without telling him that I have it first! I know most people already have hsv 1 & don't know, but I'm a nervous wreck! Is it too soon to tell him? We haven't known each other long but I'd feel like a deceiver somehow if I don't after all that we have discussed. Is he safe if we kiss? Should I just abandon ship lol

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  • nikki1230
    nikki1230 rockee37208

    Posted

    Hi. I know exactly what your going through. I've been there. Actually, it's perfect time in my opinion to let it out. Just sit him down, have confidence and tell him. If he's a decent person he'll understand. Let him have room to make his decision and don't be afraid. I've only had one rejection and I'm glad that particular person rejected me now. The right person will except every part of you. Just remember that.
  • Koolredd
    Koolredd rockee37208

    Posted

    Did you ever tell him about how you have both ? Did he take it good ? Or no ??

    Would love to hear the outcome !

    • rockee37208
      rockee37208 Koolredd

      Posted

      I did end up telling him over text, which may or may not have been the right way. He wasn't rude about it, but it was clear that he didn't understand it very well, so he distanced himself. I'm not too broken up about it because it was clear he valued physical intimacy over getting to know me better. I want to wait between 3 & 6 months before getting involved with someone in that way, so it worked itself out. I do wish I had waited at least 3 months before mentioning it, so that's what I'll do in the future. Since hsv 1 is so common (90% of pop.), I don't think I'll hold off on kissing unless I actually have a cold sore. Hope this helps!
    • nikki1230
      nikki1230 rockee37208

      Posted

      That happened to me once. He was ok with it then called me back and said he didn't want to pursue it. His loss, oh well. Just like in your case babe. The RIGHT man will accept every part of you. Chin up. smile
    • rockee37208
      rockee37208 nikki1230

      Posted

      That's what I'm trying to be strong for. Hopefully it's not just a fairy tail, guys like that...
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