Should I text him or wait to hear from him?

I've had another post in here but here's a brief summary of where I'm at.

I went to visit my friend in June for a few days and he relapsed while I was there. ( I say friend but at times it was more, we have had a phsical and emotional relationship, however he still says he is straight but just fell for me). From the minute I arrived for the next 3 days he drank and went on a cocaine binge. It resulted in him getting very paranoid, accusing me of texting his mother (still lives with parents, and they had just gone on holidays for week), watching my every move and checking my phone. It ended up that on third night he started getting very abusive verbally to me but I feared it could get physically abusive and despite my efforts to get him to contact sponsor it didn't work. So I walked out and went to stay in a hotel. He went mad and told me not to contact him again, I was devasted in a city I was unfamiliar with, on my own and missing my friend after we had planned this for 6 months. I tried ringing him the next day to explain why I left but he told me it was all my fault, he tried to commit suicide because I left and told me to go f"*k myself. So I returned home on an early flight devasted. His mum rang me the next day to say he had been admitted to a rehab facility, and had told her the reason I walked out was completely different than the real reason, think he was afraid they might find out about his sexuality. So she has kept in touch with me to say he is doing well. He is there nearly 4 weeks. The thing is, he has his phone now in the evenings for an hour or so. I can see he is online as it's WhatsApp and it's really upsetting to think he's in rehab on his phone and he hasn't reached out to text me. I had sent him 2 messages a couple of weeks ago which didn't go through, but they were delivered only this week so it may be he only turned his phone on this week, but he read my messages, one just said I missed him and still no answer. Should I text him and see where he's at offering support or wait for him to contact? My friends seem to think I'd be crazy to text him as he should be messaging me to apologise. I kind of agree hence why I haven't text him yet, but I'm so frustrated to see him online and not hear from him when I feel there's so much needs talking about. I know he's in best place and needs to focus on himself, but being on his phone to other people is sad to see as we were so close. All advice welcome, as I'm struggling big time at the moment. Thanks

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