should of told new boyfriend now need need decent sex life

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Hi, I got diagnosed with genital herpes 2 years ago with a new partner that ended quite quickly, didn't really know much info about it, just I had it and I get outbreaks when I'm seriously stressed, anyway met the man of my dreams fell I love, but I didn't tell him, I know before anyone says, I should of told him, but anyway, he gets what he said was a water infection and was quite poorly with it, so I thought that's what is was because he no spots, I thought that was the main symptom, anyway we was having a heart to heart the other night and I admitted I had herpes, he was very angry as you can imagine because i lied and he was very poorly because then he tells me his doctor said that when he looked at some spots he said that looks like herpes, don't know if he was tested for it, but anyway, we've talked and talked, screamed and cried, and we are getting through it we both know no contact with outbreak but can you still kiss and how do people lead normal sex lives, because my boyfriend is quite horny and its becoming difficult, and we both want sex, we love it, I mean in my recent outbreak, we found ways of dealing with it, but we both really enjoy oral, and anal and virginal sex, its just getting very hard where I don't know if is becoming too much for my boyfriend to handle, he sometimes treats me as if I have the plague, I love him so much, and we both want a future together, I'm stuck on what to do, please help me!!!

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    Plenty of people have a normal sex life w it. I don't see what difference it makes now that you both have it. You can't reinfect one another, but obviously you wanna abstain during obs, or it can be painful.

    Were you taking daily meds BTW when you infected him? How long did it take to infect him?

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    Oh and there's no reason to stop oral, has nothing to do w your mouth if you have hsv 2. You can still have anal as well, changes nothing. Once heroes infects the sacral ganglia, it can break out anywhere in the anogential area .. That means lower back, buttocks, anus, genitals, pelvis, upper thighs..
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      I don't actually know if he's got it, but for all I know he could of already had and that was his first time, I just got brunt of it where he thought I cheated because he was told by the doctor it looked like it, but did no test, his doctor said we couldn't have any contact, that's how much of a doctor he is, I want to try and explain to him that it could of happened as if I didn't know, I really don't he is going to take the risk of being infected, He is struggling bad, and its getting us both down, and I love him so much, and I think if it was the other way round I would be supportive and take the risk, because if you give to one an other, you can easily have sex with no protection,
    • Posted

      Hun, I can't understand your post. Too many grammatical errors. Would you mind using commas and periods, because I'm not sure what you're saying?

      1. Had you already had sex w your current partner when you had an outbreak?

      2. Do you have hsv 1 or 2?

      Calm down ans relax, we'll figure this out. It's OK. :-)

    • Posted

      Sorry for the gobbly gook, im at my wits end, because i found the man of my dreams literally and I've gone and ruined the relationship nearly by not telling him before we had sex, but its made it worse because after a few weeks of being together, ge got poorly, and I thought it was a water infection, and that's what he told me the doctor said, so it was only was when I said I had herpes that he mentioned that's what the doctor said the lumps looked like, so I not actually sure if he got tested, I'm not even going to ask him after all the heartache we have been through, Yes we have had sex several times before he got infected ( the one I thought was a water infection) and its type 2 I have, I want to know can you still kiss because we went a whole night without kissing during my outbreak and have oral at any time, I just want him to love me enough to take the risk because I know I would,
    • Posted

      What is a water infection? Never heard such a thighs, except for when it comes to the ears.

      So he came clean that what he had on his penis after you came clean, that the doctor said they looked like herpes?

      Yes, of course you can still kiss. Your genital ob has nothing to do w your mouth. Try nor to stress yourself put too much.

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