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Sick note runs out tomorrow...

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SMM103
SMM103

I’m 9 weeks post a&p & SSF today, my sick note runs out tomorrow……….. My brain is up to going back to work but I don’t think my body is just yet. 

I have had significant improvement but still have slight stinging when urinating and am still having some yellowish discharge.  I have pain in my lower left side, general aches and pains in my bits and can’t comfortably sit for prolonged periods.  I had such a bad stabbing pain in my bottom it woke me up Saturday night.

I had another look this morning and note some improvement however, the entrance to my vagina is split in two and looks really strange and there is a piece of skin like a tag just outside my vagina which is bright red and sore.  My perineum has been sewn together really roughly leaving folds of skin and it feels so uncomfortable.... sorry if tmi?

I have previously been told by my GP that I do not need a post op check-up.

I know I have to phone the GP up tomorrow and ask for an extension to my sick note but I sort of feel guilty like I should be up and doing everything....  I also need to find the strength and fight to ask of a post op check? 

I am dreading it....  What do you think ladies?

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  • phyl_40063
    phyl_40063 SMM103

    Posted

    Hi smm,

    Know exactly what you mean, I too feel I could go back to work next week , but at same time my body is telling me it's not ready.

    Especially when I consider the weight issue; just can't hurry that at all.

    When I look back at 2 weeks ago I realize how much progress has been made, then I look forward and think 2 more weeks will make even more of a difference.

    But I do think if you are worried about things it's always good to get checked by GP or consultant even if you just put your mind at rest.

    Sounds like a good idea to get at least another 2 weeks off, and get plenty rest.

    Hope things improve soon for you .

    Phyl xx💖

    • SMM103
      SMM103 phyl_40063

      Posted

      Thanks phyl, I will ask for a check up again tomorrow and see what they say. I think an extra couple of weeks will make such a difference. Hope you're doing ok. Sue x
    • phyl_40063
      phyl_40063 SMM103

      Posted

      Thanks Sue,

      I'm doing fine, been resting up today, not done much other than 2 x 30 min walks and pelvic floor exercises. Caught up on lots of ironing yesterday.

      Phyl xx💖

  • snuscoob
    snuscoob SMM103

    Posted

    You deffinatley do not sound ready, ask to see a different doctor. My surgeon retired after my surgery and they weren't going to send for me but luckily her secretary sorted me out when I rang up with a different gynaecologist. Still got to wait for 13 weeks post op though which I'm finding a pain just want peace of mind ASAP! My sick note from the hospital was for a week! Unfortunately it was all a waste of time as couldn't claim as self employed, luckily my husband has done a few extra shifts at work. Good luck and I hope you manage to get a follow up for peace of mind. X
    • SMM103
      SMM103 snuscoob

      Posted

      Thanks snscoomb, I know how you feel I'm also self employed so have been getting by just about with SSP.  My husband is Army so can't do any extra shifts unfortunately. 

      I think I am just a bit over anxious contacting the GP as I haven't had a smooth journey with them to date.... I have got a telephone consultation tomorrow so we will see how that goes.  I would like the peace of mind too from a post op check x

    • phyl_40063
      phyl_40063 SMM103

      Posted

      First time I had my op, I had given up my employment as I knew I would not be able to return ( too heavy), and was unable to continue while awaiting surgery.

      I did not claim any benefits either as I did not want the pressure of being pushed back into work before I was ready.

      But didn't realize at time that it would take so long to recover. Result was I overdone things not realizing that you have to take it really slow.

      I was lucky that I had paid my morgage off and dI'd not need to worry about that.

      I would have thought that being self employed would allow you too work around your personnel needs?

      When my Mum died my last child was just starting school and was left without childcare, so I opted for self employment so I could work round school hours and could be there for school run! Done this for 4 years, then went back to working for employer. I do miss the freedom of being able to set my own hours to suit family needs.

      Hope you manage to get something sorted.

      Phyl xx💖

    • SMM103
      SMM103 phyl_40063

      Posted

      Hi Phyllis, aww its awful having to undergo this operation again.  It seems as though your doing well this time around so that is really good.

      My health comes above everything and I am determined to listen to my body and try and get this right, I'm going to try and be strong and not forced back into work too soon.  This forum is fab for advice and the benefit of other peoples experiences.  My hubby is really good too but he has been away for the past couple of weeks, unfortunately.

      I can't set my own hours and have to secure a contract and work the hours of the contract.  Being self employed in my role means I can pick up and end contracts as it suits which has given me flexibility needed being married to a soldier and moving around.  

      Prior to my op I was contracted to a local authority and had been working for them for the past 3 years.  I do not qualify for sick pay or leave from work but do qualify for statutory sick pay which is the bare minimum per week ........ working I contribute in taxes and NI at least 3.5 times stat sick pay each week.  I am never usually sick and have never previously claimed this or any other benefit.

      Awww sorry for your loss it must have been lovely having your mum close by to help with the children and so tough when she passed away, I am sorry.  Being an army wife we have moved frequently and I never had any family close by to help with childcare.  The children came first and just worked around them when I could.

      As soon as my health permits I will be able to secure a new contract so work won't be an issue and SSP will keep us ticking over until then.

      I am considering taking up a permanent position when I am better as I am thinking that it would have been lovely to have had paid sick leave.

      Sue xx

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    • phyl_40063
      phyl_40063 SMM103

      Posted

      Hi sue,

      My hubby's the same self employed and paid his Tax & NI , but can't even get him to go to docs anymore. First and last time he had to take time out he thought he would claim sick cover , they gave him a form which he claimed was as thick as phone directory; needless to say he never bothered and that was years ago.

      But he has his own business and can make his own hours. Been quite good as he has cut some of his hours, as he claims he is exhausted running after me! (Never mind the fact that us women do so much more and still cover our own working hours), anyway he has been much more supportive this time round so can't really complain (although I did on Sunday at size of ironing pile)!

      But agree that working as employee has its advantages, it's good to get holiday pay and this is a first for me getting sick pay, and getting any tax/NI deducted automatically is easier.

      I hate come December / January when it's time fof hubby to pay tax bill and class 2&4 all at one time , and I hate holiday time when not only does he not have holiday pay but he has loss of earnings because he is not working they weeks, so like double blow!

      My dad's away 33 years and mum away 8/9 years. It's nearly always women who have to work round kids, had to be that way hubby can make 3 times what I make. Child care can be so expensive and anyway my hubby would say 'you wouldn't leave your purse with a stranger so why would you leave your child with one' and we could never agree on which local child minders were best, (I'm sure some of them are very good).

      Feel terrible that I can't help my daughter much (3 young boys all under 4), she has went back to work full time and her hubby is full time dad!

      Amazing how things change!

      Hope things work out for you

      Phyl 💖

    • SMM103
      SMM103 phyl_40063

      Posted

      aww thanks Phyl xx I'm just waiting for GP 11.30am call?   Feeling anxious, how awful is that....I'm going to try and be assertive and as for a post op check too when they eventually call x
    • phyl_40063
      phyl_40063 SMM103

      Posted

      Hi SMM,

      I hope all went well , have had my fingers crossed for you, as we Al need reassurance and proper time to heal.

      Phyl xx☺☺☺

  • SMM103
    SMM103

    Posted

    Just to updated, I had a GP telephone consultation today and my sick note was renewed for 3 more weeks which is good as I do not think my body could cope with work just yet... 

    I asked for a post op check (again) and GP advised that the consultant should do this and for me to contact his secretary.  I did this today and am waiting for her to get back to me.  I think I need this for peace of mind and to check the issues I mentioned above.  Fingers crossed xx

    • phyl_40063
      phyl_40063 SMM103

      Posted

      So happy to hear you got 3 week extension smm, and that's great that you are soon to get a consultants appointment.

      That will give you the time needed now to build up strong pelvic floor.

      Happy healing,

      Phyl ☺☺☺

    • SMM103
      SMM103 phyl_40063

      Posted

      Thanks Phyllis, just need to be building my strength up more. Will work on that. I haven't been able to walk our dog just yet he really pulls.....we know it's our fault being bad at training. It's not a problem usually but I'm not taking any chances.... my goal is to be able to walk him alone again xxx.
    • phyl_40063
      phyl_40063 SMM103

      Posted

      You must really miss going for walks with your dog, you are right to be cautious that could really pull on your wound .

      Roll on the summer, hopefully by then you will be able to to resume fog walking.

      Take care,

      Phyl xx

    • SMM103
      SMM103 phyl_40063

      Posted

      Thanks Phyl, I went for my usual daily walks, this afternoon my son came with the dog.... I did have a go at holding his lead but as soon as he saw another dog he pulled so he was straight back to my son..  Think I overdid the walk this afternoon too so am just resting up.  Take care xx
    • phyl_40063
      phyl_40063 SMM103

      Posted

      Hi SMM,

      You'll have to have what the ladies call a floppy day tomorrow! Do nothing but rest.

      Take care.

      Phyl xx💖

    • SMM103
      SMM103 phyl_40063

      Posted

      thanks Phyl, I've been resting since I came back.  I have a funeral to  attend tomorrow but my sister will drive, I will just go to that and come straight back home and chill.  My hubby has been away the past couple of weeks and is back tomorrow and he is good and will do all the jobs so I will chill all weekend.  It's bank holiday too so he will be home monday which is good.  Hope you are still doing good xx
    • phyl_40063
      phyl_40063 SMM103

      Posted

      Yes I'm fine thanks,

      sorry to hear you have a funeral.

      Glad to hear you will have plenty support and help at home, you'll be so glad hubby is back!

      Take care ,

      Phyl xx

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