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I've been on Orlistat for 12 weeks. I had my 3rd weigh in today with the doc and had lost a grand total of 1kg in 4 weeks. The tears are rolling down my face as I type this. I just don't know what to do. I try and eat healthily, I exercise every day but I don't know what else I can do! I've still got 3 stone to go but the doc threatened not to give me any more prescriptions unless I start losing more weight! He only gave me one today because I had lost a little bit (and I was in tears). Any suggestions or am I destined to be fat forever! I'm 50 years old and currently weigh just over 15 Stone. Oh and as if that's not enough I'm perimenopause and suffering from hot flashes on an hourly basis EVERY hour, 24 hours a day!

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    I know it's hard and I know how you feel. I've been eating 1000 calories a day and working out 5 times a week for months and next to nothing fell off! It will happen gradually, but beating yourself up about it will do you no favours emotionally or physically. It's also not uncommon during perimenopause to gain weight because of the switch in hormones. It will return to normal so remember it's not your fault at all. Chin up babe. I'm 25 and have 5 stone to go! There is a light at the end of the tunnel, just keep working as hard as you are and you will see the results xx
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    Hi Meno (dont like to call you FattyMeno) right try and stay calm I am in the same boat as you perimenipausal and not loosing weight as I thought I would even though I have not had a crisp, butter , very limited bread and so on and swimming 30 lengths 3 times a week. Am not sure the tabs are much use to be honest and I have had a blow out the past few days but getting back on track I have been on them 12 weeks and lost about 8 pounds but had hopped to be sitting at nearer a stone in loss try stay on track big hug x
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    Hi there oh you sound so fed up i feel you x i felt the same as if nothing was coming off at all!! I got the app my fitness pal and now stick to 1200 calories a day i excercise every morning idid a 5 mile hike that ended in 8 miles lol we got lost!! My legs were not my own!! But my loss is up and down it was nothing hardly to start with then a quick loss now at a standstill again trylowering your carbs i was over doing them and after another members advice on here it seems to be helping slowly but surley xx please stay positive we are all in the same boat and here to help and listen keep your chin uphun stick with it you can do it xx
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    Good morning from South Africa it's tough when your scale does not show any loss but try and measure in cm measure arms legs bust and waist and you might be shocked. I also have a eating plan for people on xenical if you want it message me

    good luck

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    Hi There,

    I know how you feel. At least you have not been putting on with orlistat like I have been. I lost a whole 10 kg without even trying when I started taking orlistat now seem to be putting it back on again. I dont know why. It is hell.  Any suggestions would help.,

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    Awww meno I'm the same feeling rotten I only lost 2pound in a month, although my clothes looser I wanted more off, I came off tablets for a week and still kept to a good diet but decided this morning to start tablets again, so good luck and keep me posted on how you are doing x
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    Hi honey, I am so sorry that you are so upset and as you can see, we all feel for you and are going through the same nightmare. I've had a couple of these occassions over the last 7 weeks myself of crying and ranting and totally despaired as I too am just not shifting the weight. I am mid 40's and already going through the menopause and the last time I dieted I was late 30's and only had 2 stone to lose and it fell off in 3 months. This time I had 5 stone to lose and I am totally and utterly depressed with it. I am being so strict and exercising and it just doesn't seem to move. I have not lost 1lb in the last 3 weeks and I am utterly p'eed off. Even over easter when I had a night out with friends, a family get together and an easter dinner at my house, I was really really good (apart from 3 roast tatties and some skin on my chicken for the easter roast) when everyone else was stuffing their faces. It is so disheartening but I am certain age and menopause etc has a lot to do with it. I am not sure the tablets are helping me at all and am thinking of coming off them and just sticking to low calorie and exercising. I did a mamoth bike ride with my husband the last 2 days (50 miles in total - 25 each day with stopover in gorgeous hotel - where I couldn't eat the afternoon cream tea or have the 5 course dinner last night!!!! AAAAaaaggggghhhhhhhhh) and it nearly killed me today - I honestly thought I was going to die at one point and I cannot tell you how sore my "undercarriage" is - another of my husbands wonderful sayings, and got home this evening and yep, you guessed it, weighed myself straight away - nil lost - effin nothing! Am soooooooo p'eed off I can't tell you. So please, stop being so hard on yourself and stuff your doctor for being mean. You have lost weight. You are going in the right direction - which is down. Keep going, relax a little bit and think that this is forever, not just a quick fix. It took years to go on so it's probably going to take a good couple of years and lifelong changes to come off. I have another 4 stone to lose so I'm with you and other lovely people on this forum are also struggling - we are all in it together. Bless you, tomorrow is another day. Try and have a good day tomorrow and you will feel better. Now I must be away to soak my undercarriage in a hot bath as very sore. X
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      You have cheered me up no end my undercarriage is the same and noo ave got piles to go along with it. OMGGGGGGGGGGG I think I might just stay fat x
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      I am planning on getting my bike out soon but the thought of a sore undercarriage is making me think twice!  at least you made me laugh!!  Perhaps you would consider being an email buddy to help each other out when things get tricky with this weight loss sh*t?  PM me if you would like to.  xx
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      Sure, that would be good, I'll send you my email by PM in a moment cause I sure as hell am fed up to my back teeth of not losing - friggin nightmare! x
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      Glad I cheered you up, I shall tell my husband his little sayings are making people smile. Do you know, there is something to be said for being fat - my sister hit 50 and she said it's exhilerating because for the first time in her life she doesn't give a monkeys about her size - she doesn't have a mahoosive arse and stomach like me though!
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    Hi there.....I felt so sad and dis - heartened when I read ur reply. I was so hoping this was finally the answer.....surely there is a problem with these tablets as they are clearly not working for you, can the doctor not prescribe a different make??

    You are doing everything right, with ur healthy eatting and exercise , maybe u have loosing in inches. Good luck with the next weigh in and try to keep positive, I am along way off 15 stone so well done you !!! Xxxx😔

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    Thank you all for your comments.  Please don't take this the wrong way but it's strangely comforting to know that others feel the same way I do!  At least I know that I'm not sub-normal for feeling tearful and depressed just because of my weight.  I wouldn't say that I feel better today but I have rediscovered my determination not to let this weight problem beat me.  I'm also relieved to hear that not everyone thinks the tablets help.  That has at least has given me a little perspective.  I think I had talked myself into believing that the weight loss I have had so far was due totally to them which is not the case. At least if my doc threatens to take me off them again I can tell him to go ahead and may be a few other things too wink  He suggested that he would refer me to a dietician.  Believe me after dieting all my adult life and most of my adolescence, there's not much I don't know about making healthy choices.  The trouble is I don't always have the willpower to make those choices.

    I find it really annoying that if I was a drug addict or a smoker the establishemnt would be bending over backwards to help me but as an overweight individual I am supposed to just develop a heightened will power to deal with it.

    Oh well, rant over.  Thanks for listening and being there.  It does help.

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      You can and will lose the weight just keep doing what you are doing and measure your self in cm and then check again. Good luck
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    Hi meno well ive come to a standstill myself afain its so depressing i have my weigh in at doctors friday and have not lost a single lb this week 😥 im totally bloody sick!! I excercise i watch totally everything i eat not 1 slip up!! On my fitness pal app my total fat in take most days is 14% for the full day!! My total loss since being on the tablets is 6lb i expected much more as im so strict with myself and excercise daily i wanted to get some of the old me back as i totally lost myself i havnt been out for 3 years for a night out as i lack confidence and just want to feel like me again so im desperate too to lose more! Stick with it you will get there were all in the same boat on here and its great we can find someone to relate too chin up keep us all posted girl stick with it xx
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      Hi Corinne. Ive come to the realisation that life just isn't fair! We do all we can and still it seems as though we're getting nowhere. However, the fact is we are getting somewhere - just very slowly. Some people get to skip through rainwater puddles - we have to wade through treacle! It's harder and definitely takes longer but we can get there so right back at you - keep your chin up!! xx
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      Hi meno thanks for reply yes your so right there!!! Well you do hear to lose slowly is better ( i like to believe that 😊 ) so hopefully what we lose stays off ! Dont worry we can keep each other and everyone else here going with our ups & downs at least we all have the same in common so we know how each other feels xx keep going hunny xxx
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