So..it happened.

I tried talking to my nurse about it who told me I had it and she acted like she didn't want to tell me anything. So all I know is what I've researched and I don't even know how much of it is true or what to believe.

Genital herpes is common and it's not fatal. Some people ho have don't know they have because they don't have it. You did the right thing for getting tested and its unfortunate about how it happened. You will be okay and you are not alone.

Well you’re not giving us the info though so ...

I've been doing nothing but research...literally driving myself insane with it. And not once have I read about a cure. What is this medication you're on?

Also how would you know its a cure if this is in your bloodstream? Taking the valacyclovir can make it go undetectable so I'm pretty confused to this cure you speak of

But you're not giving me any valid information. Your word doesnt mean anything if you can't even tell me what "medication" you're supposedly taking.

First of all Ma’am there is currently no cure for this “SKIN CONDITION” I’ve had it for about 3 months now I got it from a guy I slept with maybe 3/4 times he told me it was ezcema on his penis when I did confront him.. my first OB was freaking horrible I mean I couldn’t walk I couldn’t pee I cried at night when I slept because I kept discharging and the discharge would hurt just as bad as urinating so me just thinking it was a bad uti or bacterial infection I went to urgent care were the doctor did a pap and noticed 3 lesions on my cervix one which had busted open the cut was bad no wonder it hurt so freaking bad.. she instantly said you possibly have herpes!! I screamed at her and said “HERPES ARE U F*CKING SERIOUS this cannot be right” I drove home crying so hard so long thinking of ways to kill my self felt like my life wasn’t worth living any more I felt so empty so cold so worthless and ashamed I felt like everyone knew I had it I was checked in to a psychiatric hospital because my thoughts of suicide got so bad!!! After I was released I felt a lot better but then I would have some days where I would break down again it seems like drinking made me sad and bring back all those feelings of shame and everything else!! But today is May and I will tell you I feel so much better yes when I’m

Up and can’t sleep I’m doing all the research on it that’s all you can do I mean hey there’s no cure so that’s the best thing you can do is educate yourself being around family and loved ones and talking to someone who actually has it worked for me also this site has helped sooo much reading other people’s stories! Give it time darling I cannot tell you oh it’s just herpes because I felt exactly the way you do but I promise you it is not the end of the world in fact your life has just begun.. 

I had some very similar issues. I couldn't walk, it was spread through my genitals as well as buttocks. I was in so much pain. And I'm still having my moments. Past few days I haven't cries but I also haven't really been thinking about it. I'm going through a very itching stage right now and it's almost a unbearable at times. I ended up in the hospital because at the same time I was going through this I had recently gotten my tongue pierced and it got infected, so I couldn't eat or drink anything on top of I was running 106+ fevers. Stayed that way for a week literally all I would do is sleep and pee...sometimes. It hurt so bad. I was finally brought to the ER. After four hours i was admitted. Was in there for three days. Had a shot in my booty, medication the whole time, and 7 bags of fluid thru my IV. Ended up on a total of three different medications for everything. I'm actually kind of talking to a guy right now that I haven't done anything with. But we also just started talking. He keeps talking about us having sex and I keep saying that won't happen. I'm scared to have to deal with this with another person. I don't wanna have that talk because the way my mental state is over this, I don't think I could bare the endless possibilities of what may happen after I have "the talk." Everyone tells me i can have a normal life but the questions I want and need answered no one actually answers them. Like how am I suppose to start a family? How do I actually have the talk with someone? What am I suppose to say to make them understand what I'm going thru. People hear herpes and automatically think STD...nasty...stay away. How does even giving oral work? You say this is more of a skin condition...and I wanna believe that so bad. But it just puts a knot in my throat because...its an STD. People aren't taught that herpes is a skin condition. They're taught its an STD. STDs are deemed very bad. I want people to be able to understand...and I know they won't. I just have so many thoughts and questions.

Not true. They will give you supressants. You will be able to have a baby vaginally unless you have a outbreak during labor. Already talked to my obgyn about it since we are about to try for a baby.

Omg that sounds like such a lot to deal with all at once I’m sorry you had to go through that!!! But as I said before sweetheart everything you are going through all that you are feeling I’ve been there I’ve felt that so I know it is not easy but I promise you it’s only been three months for me and sometimes I forget I have it because when I leave the hair salon when I get dressed up and pretty for a special ocassion I look in the mirror and I still see that same beautiful person I was before my diagnosis!!! You have a virus that won’t go away that doesn’t mean you are not worthy of love your are not alone do you understand how many ppl have this just calm down do not beat yourself up about it because you can have 20 kids if you want to if you are having an outbreak which you probably won’t my doc says they give you meds like the last month before you due date and if not you can do a c-section.. but I believe that your thinking to far ahead take sometime to figure things out from here find some peace and relaxation sex is the last thing that matters so if he can’t stop talking about it and he doesn’t understand your not ready he’s not the guy for you.. if you see him as someone you see potential in or possibly being with for a while one day tell him if your scared tell him over the phone or in public at a nice resturaunt you may be surprise he could possibly have it that’s how common it is

My mom was with my brothers dad for 5 years and she never got the virus so it’s so many ways to prevent giving this virus to your partner 

What does that mean? You'd be able to go to the doctor and have sperm implant it inside you? Or does the suppressant mean you'll have a baby without a condom? How do I get suppressants? I just wanna make sure I'm considered noncontagious, I'll still use condoms but I don't wanna infect anyone.

And prayers for a safe expecting for a baby ❤

Thank you. Of course not. You have sex the regular way. Without condoms- but that’s if your husband or partner is okay with it. Ask your doctor for valtrex. This helps prevent breakouts and also greatly reduces the chances of spreading. My husband and I have been together 4 years and there’s no sign of him having herpes from me. This really isn’t as bad as you think it is. It just seems like it right now.